My boyfriend feels bad because I play my game after he goes to bed?

Question

I'm 21, we've been together 4 years. I like playing World of Warcraft and I play at night when more people are on the game. But my boyfriend goes to bed sooo early, usually 9:30 at night and I'm not tired at 9:30. So I spend time with him and 'play' with him until he goes to bed at 9:30 and then I get on the game at about 11:00 and go to bed late (I know...it's addictive! lol). Every night when I go in there, he's awake and pissed off. He gets up in the morning for work complaining he didn't sleep well. When I ask why, he says it's because I wasn't there with him THE WHOLE TIME! We've dated for 4 years and lived together for 3 months so obviously he had no trouble sleeping without me before I moved in. Why can't he just realize that we spend plenty of time together now that we live together, and be happy that at least I'm here at home playing a game and not out in the bars cheating on him? I mean, should I stop playing and go to bed at 9:30 with him? Or how can I make him feel better?

Ok...all you people who say I need to give him some...the bastard does get laid all the time. He's just being a whiney baby!

Answer 1

That's tough, my wife gets pissed when I don't go to bed with her as well, I usually do but sometimes I'm not tired or just hung up in whtever I'm doing.... maybe you could compromise and go to bed with him like half the time, and the other half you can stay up and play

Answer 2

Just let him know that you are not used to going to sleep that early. Tell him that you don't want to just lay there and flop around and keep him awake all night. I can't help but wonder however how late you are going to bed if you don't even start playing until 11:00pm. My guess would be 4 or 5 o'clock in the morning. Do you work? If not it may be easy for you to sleep in during the morning hours but that would mean you are not lying down with him at all. If that is the case then why are you living together why not just come visit. You also need to keep in mind he is not used to having noise in his house while he is trying to sleep. That can be a problem too.

Answer 3

Wow. That's really nice that he wants to spend time with you. Girls would kill for a guy like that. It sounds like you seem a little absorbed in this video game. I know things like that can be addictive, but it's a video game. We're talking about a relationship with your boyfriend. Which is more important? If you don't like him that much then maybe you should move out so you can play your video game in peace. However, if you love him then tell him you will play only two or three night out of the week and the other nights you all can have quality time tigether. If you don't even acknowledge his concern and don't even consider his feelings, he might move out himself.

Answer 4

He's acting like a child, tell him to grow up, he slept without you his whole life and he can do it now. He's just trying to run you. No way you start going to bed at 9:30, thats bedtime for 6 year olds. I am actually in the same situation, sort of, my bf gets up for work at 5 am and I play games at night too, I don't usually go to bed before he leaves for work. I just prefer being up at night, besides I don't work since we moved here but its only temporary til this job is done so if i go to bed early then I just sit here alone all day. He tried to have a problem with it at first but he got over it. I'm not his babysitter or his mom and personally I couldn't go to sleep at 9:30 if i tried. Its silly, tell him to get over it (in a nice way if you want, but i wouldn't bother) if someone is acting like a child you treat them like a child.

Answer 5

My husband likes to stay up late on the computer. What he does on it I don't care, but I can relate to your bf. Even though my hubby is not hurting anything. I want him to be in the bed with me when I go to sleep. I have just learned to deal with it. And your right at least your not in a bar or something. Maybe some nights you could go to be with him. Try a little compromise. See if he wants to try and play the game. But you better make him some strong coffee!!!

Answer 6

I have recently been playing WoW until 3 am and trust me I regret those nights, here you are spending your time worried about lvling and getting better gear, But what does that do for you in life. It means nothing. but that guy who your leaving alone in bed. he means more to you than any game ever could. So before you throw him out, throw WoW out. He feels like he has lost attention, and yes it may have been like that before you moved together. BUT you must realize that once youve moved in with someone, youve made a commitment to them. And you should force yourself to go to bed at the same time as him at least a few nights per week. But yes WoW is like crack, It isnt easy to stop, but if you stop all at once, it will help you realize what is important in life.

Answer 7

Your relationship seems steady enough, but you almost answered your own question. You have a short time living together. Stay off the game for a while. Get use to living together, get comfortable, then he may ease off on having to have you there the whole night. Give it time, a relationship is worth more than a game, isn't it ?

Answer 8

He sounds like he is a little insecure. I mean I think he needs to realize that you used to do the same thing before you moved in together and he has to respect the things that you like. Don't give in to him. Living together is all about little battles like this one and if you cave in and stop playing your game who knows what else he is going to try to control.

A suggestiong to fix this is get a laptop. My mom used to complain cas my dad would go on his computer after she went to bed and she would be alone. Then he got a laptop and used it in bed and laid with her while she slept, but also was able to use his computer. Just a suggestion..but you may not be able to afford it financially. Good luck, and choose your battles wisely.

Answer 9

I think that your boyfriend just thinks that maybe he wants you in there because maybe he'll wake up in the middle of the night while you're playing the game and he might want to get uh.. intamite with you. I think its different now though for him because before you moved in he didn't have you there to talk with and to be with. I think that you SHOULD speak to him about it because he should know how you feel because if hes getting upset about it so you try to please him by going to bed at 9:30 with him you're going to be unhappy and in return its going to make for a very rocky relationship after that. So speak with him about it and see how he feels. I think thats the best thing to do.

Answer 10

That game is like crack.

I recently quit, was sooooo hard to quit.

Better things to do with your life than grind rep/honor/raiding.
This is coming from a guy who was in a raiding guild with C'thun/Ouro/Vicidius on farm. I'll miss my conquerer's set.
/end geekiness.

For real though, I was a jock before WoW, and now I lost my 6 pack, and V cut shoulders, I started training hardcore again though so in about 4 or so months I should have those back.

Good luck with that.