put his hand on her upper thigh while talking ,then leaned over and held her hands.Is this this out of bounds .This has caused a big problem between my wife an I.
2006-07-27 10:06:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Was your wife offended by the doctor's touch, or were you? Since a doctor has the duty to attend to a person's physical illness or diagnosis, the rules about physical touching are very different than the rules that apply in social situations. With a colonoscopy, the doctor knows your wife's insides better than you do. Especially after a procedure that involves anesthesia, the doctor's touching of the patient can give certain information about whether or not the patient is coming out of the anesthesia. Also, the physical touch is reassuring to most patients - the "laying on of hands" has a long tradition in healing traditions.
If it was your wife that had the problem with the physician's closeness, she should tell him about it. I do not think that most people would think that a doctor's sitting on the hospital bed, and touching the patient through the sheets - even on the leg - unacceptable behaviour.
2006-07-27 10:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by drwag1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem shouldn't be between you and your wife unless it's just a matter of opinion regarding the doctor's actions...and a difference of opinion is NOT a problem, just a fact. Doctors have very different styles, and what you perceive as being "out of bounds" may be perfectly innocent in the doctor's eyes. Remember! During the surgery, the doctor was much more intimate with your wife, and you wouldn't have wanted it any other way.....boundaries in health care are very difficult to outline. Some patients need the TLC offered by a doctor rather than a coolness; of course, you'd want a male doctor to do it in a brotherly or fatherly way to a female patient. Don't jump to conclusions; if you want to know more, be the strong, take-charge man and talk to the doctor rather than arguing with your wife! Cool down and consider motives rather than just judge what you see.
2006-07-27 10:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To some this would be inappropriate behavior of a doctor. But if it doesn't make the patient uncomfortable, then it isn't an issue.
He may have been a person, who is caring and shows it in the way that he did. This could have been a way to reassure her after.
Your being jealous about something that your wife does not find concern in, should be dropped. She just has an invasive procedure done and you are worried that the doctor was throwing passes her way. Come on! Not worth fighting about!
2006-07-27 10:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Twisted Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it all depends on the news he was giving your wife. If it was bad news or something he found that he didn't like, then it sounds like he was trying to be compassionate. If he was telling your wife that it was all normal, then i would wonder why he was acting so concerned.
2006-07-27 10:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by WenckeBrat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife feels like it was a problem then contact your hospital's nursing administration and they will deal with it. But if he just held her hand I see no problem in it.
2006-07-27 10:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetask 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your wife didn't have a problem w/ it and you did. you are letting your insecurities get the best of you. only worry as much as your wife is. insecurities are a real ball buster if you don't have them in check. work on that.
2006-07-27 10:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by joe_smo_red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most doc.s don't have good bedside manners, so if he came in and talked to her this is a good thing. if she felt uncomfortable then she should say something to him/her about it. she can let him know that she was uncomfortable and he will adjust to her needs. but as to yours, you may just be being to protective. talk to her about how she felt and if she was not uncomfortable then let it be. i mean, as long as he wasn't groping at her thigh and she wasn't in a too medicated condition, then i don't think he meant any harm.
2006-07-27 10:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i won't be in a position of have self assurance lots of the moronic solutions to this humorous tale !!!!! The irony is in what he says ! loosen up you morons ! perchance in case you think of of the husband as IRISH this is going to alter into clearer !
2016-10-08 09:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what he was sharing with her. Good or bad news and if it made your wife uncomfortable.
2006-07-27 10:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by Lilybell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say yes. But if you're still not sure, ask your wife about it and if she was uncomfortable then definately.
2006-07-27 10:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by ZuuL ThE SpAcEmAn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋