my grandma is 74 years old and is very healthy...everyone she knows or used to be friends with is eaither decesed or isint as energetic as her... i go and see her about once a week i have a family and two kids of my own.....when i go and see her we really dont have anything to say but i dont mind ...everytime i go over there she is sitting alone with her dog....she doesent even watch tv......how can i help her....i dont want her to be lonley.......and yes she does have a boyfriend ......but we live in ks and he lives in az .....she wont move there to be with him its too hot....and he wont move here because he has a house and everything there.
2006-07-27 09:58:14 · 7 answers · asked by megan l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i do want her to get involved with the senior center ....but how can i do it w out offending her
2006-07-27 10:15:55 · update #1
Why not plan some special event which would get her out of the house? A nice lunch? A trip to the movies? A picnic in the park? How about having her come to your house for a family dinner or just to hang out for a day or two? Yes, you should also make her dog welcome. One of the difficulties of growing old is the lonliness which can lead to severe clinical depression. This can make the person almost immobile, which can cause severe health problems as well. One other thing, how about calling her on the phone more often? It's important that older people don't feel that they've been forgotten.
2006-07-27 10:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by Richard B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi - I really appreciate your concerns first. Family is always built on the love and trust that one has on each other as a member of the family - be it the Eldest or the Youngest in the family...
Now, what you have said - it appears that she feels that she has lived her live and has brought this great family a long way - so she is now resting and has left things to move on with you all... But, her thoughts are her friends now... because she really cannot communicate with anyone (as you have mentioned it).
To help the situation and make her feel better - to make her not to get lost in her thoughts, you all should encourage her to get involved in some family talks, small chats daily inside the family, etc. which gives her room to speak about something and make her talk and not feel lonely...
Sometimes, do call on her - when ur away; ask others in the family also to pitch in to boost her...
Long live the Granny and the Family...
Cheer
2006-07-27 10:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by Krish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of elderly people are lonely for companionship of people their own age as their friends die off. You're doing great to visit and to notice that she is lonely. Maybe she knows how to do something that you could ask her to teach you - like knitting or sewing or growing herbs or whatever. That would give you an activity together. Also, check around your area and see if there are any groups for seniors, like a book club, something that would go along with her interests. Keep up the visiting, you will be glad you did.
2006-07-27 10:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by gouldgirl2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why son't you get her to join a seniors club. My mother is 90 and she belongs to one and they take trips and have a lot of outings. She lives in a senior's apartment with all kinds of support for her if she needs it and loves it there and yes she cold have brought her dog if she had one.
You could take her somewhere when you visit - go on an outing.... Good luck
2006-07-27 10:03:41 · answer #4 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to take my grandma out to a nearby cafe for coffee and cake. That got her out of the house and seing other people.
I also took her for slow walks around a nearby lake. I asked her a lot of questions about herself and she loved to talk about her life and experiences once you got her going. Seems as if the walking losened her tounge a bit :-)... The dog would enjoy the walk too.
2006-07-27 10:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man! u r so lucky! i got an idea. ask her about her past, try to find out more about her. from there a great conversation will bloom, you 2 will have more to talk about. you 2 probably have more in common than u think. you guys could probably do sumthing really fun.
2006-07-27 10:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's sad . you spend alot of time with her
2006-07-27 10:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋