i met this guy who is 10 years older than me about a month ago. he has 2 kids and i know he likes me and i know he doesnt just want sex cause of his kids. Im not really sure what to do so plZZZZ help me !!!!!!!!
2006-07-27 09:55:27 · 39 answers · asked by cutiepatutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dated and married a man who was 10 years older then me. Things went extremely well between us for afew years and then they started going down hill. About the time that I hit my prime and and was wanting sex alot more, he was getting to the age where he didn't want it hardly at all.
I know alot of people would say that this should not have been an issue if we loved each other but I'm here to tell you that it really does. Women associate making love with LOVE, we associate the touching, holding, foreplay etc with LOVE.
He also started not wanting to do anything but go to work and then lay around the house all the time.
He didn't feel like doing anything with the kids ( and we had my kids and his kids)
And you didn't state what yall's ages were but the age difference usually does make a difference. Not in all cases but in most.
I then married a man who was 10 years younger then me and the sex part was FANTASTIC (lol) but there were other issues that became a problem. Nothing that had to do with his age.
2006-07-27 10:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known my partner for only a year, we met on the net on a well known dating site. He is a gorgeous and very young 57 and I am 41 tomorrow he has 3 kiddies from the ages of 2 to 10 that are coming to stay with us for a month (the second time since his separation) from Sunday, my 2 are really looking forward to it. I'm 6 months pregnant with his baby. I'm happier than I have ever been................ it's all up to you.......DATE THE MAN! .....remember his kids too, it has to be mutual, they are are important in all of this too. Who knows where it starts and ends but if you never give it a try you'll never know. I was single mum for 3 years, sex was a need yes.......it depends what you want too, you have to hit that first date if your going to find out!!!!! Also remember the ex wife....they can be spikey!!!
2006-07-27 10:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by minitheminx65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow. Nothing wrong with dating a guy 10 years older, but you do want to be sure he's divorced, or at least legally separated from his former wife. If he's a widower, he should'a told you that by now. And don't be fooled by the kids: I had four when I began dating my current wife - I'm nine years older than she - and you're darn right I was interested in sex! I was also interested in a new wife, since my first one had thrown me out. Anyway, sure, as long as the guy's straight with you, go out with him. Just be ready to be a mom if you decide that marriage is in the works - 'cause you'll be marring a ready-made family, not just him!
2006-07-27 10:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
date him
2006-07-27 09:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better be over 18 and you better run away from a guy with two kids unless you are over 30. Are girls generally, really this stupid? Please think before you go with someone out of desperation or infatuation. If he is so "good" and has two kids - he should be a widower : : or you should talk to the exes family first. The ex is not a good source but the family would be as you could filter out the real truth. Jump in and be the 2nd ex soon.
2006-07-27 10:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it depends on how old you are. Second of all are you really ready for the responsibility of children, because eventually the children WILL get in the way of the relationship and eventually you will have to take care of them in some way, shape, or form....believe it. I think I'd do my research and find out as much as I could about this guy before dating him. Sounds like maybe this guy does like you, but do you really like him? If you can't answer that question whole heartedly with a yes, then he's probably not the guy for you. If you do decide to date this guy, just be on your guard. Take things slow, really get to know this person before you get seriously involved with him. If he proves to be a worthy, responsible, respectable guy, who treats you right, then go for it. Age is just a number.
2006-07-27 10:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. I've dated a guy more than 10 years older. But he didn't have kids. Just as long as the guy is not more than 20 years older....
2006-07-27 10:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date him. =)
2006-07-27 09:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lets see first age doesn't really matter as the first priority... if you love the guy and he loves you.... that is the first thing you really need to be sure of and then if its true love then i say go for it...he has two kids then he must have some priorities and responseablities to take care of.... so i think you should do whats in your heart and feelings
2006-07-27 10:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by enchantedwestcoastguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all do both of you all really care about each other. Do he treat you right, make you laugh. Can you deal with the fact he have children. Age isn't nothing but a number, it' how the people feel about each other. I am dating a man 19 years older than me because I really care about me.
2006-07-27 10:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by angle2005star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋