My fiance and I have been together off and on for 2 years... and we have only been back together for about 2 months now... we were broken up for about 2 weeks... during that time he had gone out with another girl, which I don't mind, but she just got in touch with him while we were together and told him she might be pregnant... she missed her period and is on her way to the store to buy a pregnancy test... he really expects me to take this calmly... well I expected him to use protection... should I stay by him? I know if she is pregnant that he will want to be in the kids life... he loves kids.... what should I do? and please don't tell me I am to young to get married and all that because it won't solve my problems...
2006-07-27 09:47:32 · 6 answers · asked by Shy Williams 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He went over to her apartment to find out if she is lying...
2006-07-27 09:48:24 · update #1
Well shy, it is not a easy situation to handle at all, but first of all, do you love him? Does he love you? You need to be sure about your feelings and his too. when we love someone, we are capable of forgiving everything, but we need to analyze everything detail and the circumstances about what happened, about your future and his too. If she is really pregnant, you need to ask yourself if you are ready to forgive him and to face this situation like a fate and to keep your mind clean and positive that a new life is coming and the child will need all his love and attention and you need to understand that your boyfriend will be capable of handle ling with that new situation. Try to have a straight conversation with your boyfriend and give him a chance to say what happened, then analyze all what he says to you and make your choice, ok. it is not easy to choose, but you need make your choice. Ask yourself: do I want to marry? Do I want him in my life forever? Is my boyfriend the one to me? Do I want to build a real relationship and life together? Am I sure that my boyfriend is my real love? If you have the answers to that questions, you will know what to do, ok. Listen to you heart and soul to get the answers.
2006-07-27 10:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all why on earth would you take this person back after him being with another girl....2 weeks is not a long time to be apart and he just had to go out and have sex? Pregnant or not give him his walking papers and you go on with your life and find that person who wants to be with only you. Everybody has problems in their relationships, but you have to TRUST a person. How can you trust him again? Doesn't matter how old you are, the rules are the same for all of us. Trust your instincts and don't be afraid of losing this loser, be strong. Take care and good luck .
2006-07-27 17:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first its good to do your best not to freak untill you know wether or not she is actually pregnant or not. but i can defedently see why you are freakin out. and if he really cared about you wouldnt he of told you that he had slept with another girl? and if it was only a two week period of time that you were apart and he had already slept with someone else then it kinda makes you wonder wether or not what you two shared was pure. i meen if he is willing to throw it away so quickly and forget about you so fast and start sleepin around, did he really care about you in the first place? honestly in the end its all up to you wether or not you stay with him. i do wish you the best of luck. my advice is that if she is pregnant then you need to talk to him about it and see were he stands and if he wants to be with the kids either you can still be with him and the kids\kid can visit you guys. or you will have to do what will hurt the most, you would possibly have to leave him with the girl that he got pregnant. although being dificult it might be the best thing in the end. im sry to hear about your situation, i wish you the best of luck.
2006-07-27 17:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by thekidwiththeredhair_yay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy. Ok, well as you've already admitted, you can't get mad at him for something that happened while you guys were broken up. But he needs to make a choice. Either he wants to be with her, or he wants to be with you. If the girl is pregnant and he wants to stay with you, you gotta be ok with the fact that she's gonna need him for support both emotional and financial...for the rest of her life. If she's not pregnant and he still wants to be with you, you both need to make sure she stays out of the picture. You know him better than we do...is he trustworthy? Do you believe the story about her maybe being pregnant and him going over there to find out? Is he a liar? Never date liars.
2006-07-27 16:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't an easy situation to handle. I wouldn't exactly take it calmly, because it just shows him you don't care. Still, don't freak out and don't be harsh about it, if she is. Treat the kid well, if she has one, because it's a part of your guy. He loves kids, and this is his, so be kind to it. Don't be resentful. I know it's easier said than done, but it's what has to be done, no matter how much it hurts.
2006-07-27 16:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by callmegoddess618 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT WORRY DEAR....what i think she's just making up story...for him not to totally dump her.
if ever she not pregnant really pregnant she could still pretend right?
WOW..headache for you....about your BF...i mean for 2mths of breaking up...his been doing no good....maybe he'll say she a rebound....but still.
anyways this is up to you dear...just make sure you have yourself check in the clinic...you dont even know what that other GIRL HAVE...."STD'S" just to make sure nothing to lose...right?
good luck
2006-07-27 17:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋