I dated this guy for a few weeks and I dumped him because I thought I didn't have tha "feeling" for him, even though I thought he was the perfect guy for me. Then a few weeks later, I realize that I want to be with him and I'm in love with him, but he's cautious because he doesn't want to get hurt again. How do I prove to him I won't hurt him again?
2006-07-27 09:38:52 · 33 answers · asked by allycatt123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you broke up with him without even giving it enough time. I don't think you can truly know in a few weeks whether or not you love someone. I believe you can be infatuated with someone at any time, but true love takes time to develop. I'd steer clear of the "I love you"s because it's waaaay too soon to know. But he has good reason to be cautious. No one likes being dumped and taking you back was a big risk for him. Take things slow for a while, don't try to make things too serious too fast. That's a big relationship killer. Just focus more right now on dating and hanging out than being "romantic".
2006-07-27 09:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, get him back only to change your mind and dump him again when the next best thing comes along. Who knows after doing this for a few more years you may be ready to settle down with one guy, but by that time you're going to be old and used up from bouncing from guy to guy so most likely you aren't going to marry or spend the rest of your life all happy and in love. You'll have to settle for whatever you can get.
Or you can just face reality and realize "In love" is only a feeling that lasts for the first few months of a relationship. After that you are stuck with the person you fell in love with and reality.
2006-07-27 09:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mustang's advice is sound. However, don't get your hopes too high. Guys take these things very personally, and since it was only for a couple weeks, there might not be that "connectedness" that would make him want to get back together. Have an open discussion with him, and don't get upset if he does - keep your cool basically. Let him know how you feel, and take it from there.
Good luck.
2006-07-27 09:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by Thalias 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want an immediate resolution you won't get it. The way to prove your feelings to him is just beng trustworthy and loving, then after a period of time he will know you are for real. Make sure you tell him you love him and show him, but don't be overly affectionate, it may come off as fake. Good luck!
2006-07-27 09:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by crystalg66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let him see for himself, when a guy gets hurt they become very cautious. Put yourself in his shoes how would u feel if he did the same thing.Just hang out together as friends,and on his time he'll come around.Sincerely apologize to him and let him know u're there for him,if he needs you. Actions speak louder than words just dont push him into anything.If you care for this guy your on his time now.
2006-07-27 09:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by jackey m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did this with my ex too. haha. So what u have to do is start hanging out with him like 3times a week. Show him a good time. Then he will just kiss you. If he doesn't, show him the pain in your eyes and how sad u are while hanging out. I wouldn't recommend crying though. He'll know you care and will definitely want you back.
2006-07-27 09:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by coolchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will take time because you need to regain his trust and trust, once lost, is hard to regain. Just continue to treat him the way he deserves to be treated and you will see after a while he will trust you again and believe you truly love him. You need to work according to his emotional schedule though because he is hurt.
2006-07-27 09:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be true to your word and you have to be careful. You have to put work into it and keep in mind that it takes a lifetime to build trust and a second to destroy it. Try letters and surprises. Get to know his likes and dislikes and do things just because be sure to express to him how you feel about him often. I mean you put yourself in a tough situation and you are lucky that you are able to get a second chance because most people do not get one.
2006-07-27 09:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't prove it to him. Just tell him to trust you, that you see you were mistaken and that you really did care about him. Be open and honest about what happened last time. Then trust him to make the right choice.
2006-07-27 09:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by callmegoddess618 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have any idea what it truly is you want at this point. Take it a day at a time. Have fun together without making some grandiose commitment.
2006-07-27 09:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by Ilsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋