I like him and I see myself being in a relationship with him. But i'm not to sure about the threesome thing. He said he wants to try it once and thats it. I need help!
2006-07-27 09:34:57 · 37 answers · asked by y02 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you two recently started dating but this goes for anyone. Introducing a relationship to polygamy is fraught with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundamental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality.
2006-07-28 19:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your ok with a threesome, it will bring in many new issues that you will have to discuss before you try it.
For one thing, there is an issue of trust. Will your trust be the same after the third person enters your life sexually? Will your guy like the other person more than you after he has had another person at the same time? Will your feelings be the same afterwards and will there be any jealousy between you and your guy and the third person.
What about disease? Will you be protected? Is the third person clean and telling the truth? How many partners has the third person had and which whom?
All these issues need to come out first!
2006-07-27 09:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well like or even love yourself more. is it worth it? is it something that you will regret later on in life? or do you feel that you are worth more than a one time that could end up with something life time you can't get rid of. i am sure you are young. you will find someone who treasures you for you and don't need others to validate themselves or yourself. what's the reason for the threesome i had to ask myself cause i had the same offer almost took it and found out the guy had herpes. the one i really liked. then family members i know have had threesomes and it ended up they had cheated on thee spouse or significant other just to use as an excuse. and this was not a desperate housewives episode
2006-07-27 10:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy who truely cares about you would not ask you to have a threesome. Sounds like he is saying that you are not good enough in bed and he needs a third person. Don't do it cause you like him. If you are a little on the kinky side and feel like trying then go for it, but don't look for anything long term from this guy.
2006-07-27 09:41:26 · answer #4 · answered by LISA F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally up to you. Decide if you are ok with it or not and stick to it. Also keep in mind that if he tries it once, he may want it again. You may also feel bad after. You may feel insecure and it very well could cause problems in the relationship. Try telling him that you want it to be a threesome with another guy and see how he likes it.
2006-07-27 09:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by Dani California 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to do it then don't. I personally wouldn't do it just because I don't like being pressured into things, especially for a guy. And if you are considering a relationship with him, I'd cross him off your list because it sounds like even having one woman won't ever make him happy. I suggest dropping him before you do something you regret. If he doesn't understand your concern, then he's not worth it. Plus, I think sex is between two people who love each other, not just a fling...that's what it was made for. Just my opinion.
2006-07-27 09:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by operamemartexpo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from a guys perspective, it sucks.
I did it!
I really did, my girlfriend said she was up for it but the sight of me doing another girl made her cry and our relationship never worked after.
Most guys, myself included, think this is the ultimate sexual fantasy.
Trust me though, all my friends who have done it say it was a bad idea and I would agree 100%
Watch porn or something instead
2006-07-27 09:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your a Siamese twin then I'd have to pass...I only say this because you say you would want a relationship with him...one time thing or not...his character has already proven you would not be the one and only for him..you must realize he isn't dating to find thee one for him..he is looking for a 3rd person relationship....so I suggest you pass on this.
2006-07-27 09:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah ok wants to try it once.....until you do it and then he will start to expect it. I guess if you feel comfortable with it go for it. But personally I think three is a crowd when it comes to the bedroom. I guess that is probably because I don't share well with others LOL
2006-07-27 09:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of Pandora's box. Ask him if it can be mfm and see if that's OK with him. Its dangerous play but lots of fun as long as there are ground rules if it is fmf then you have to be in control that way you dont allow something that could hurt you later. Just be careful
2006-07-27 09:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by The Joker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋