ok... im pregnant with my second child , intentionally . Im worried what ppl will say bc im not married and although I am practically married , my family and in a small community of ppl look down upon me for such things. Please help give me some advice to not worry about what others may think or say
2006-07-27 09:28:57 · 20 answers · asked by linseyleigh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thier opinions are only gonna count in their head...since you are not in their head i wouldnt worry about it...it really doesnt bother me and i dont care what people say about me....all they can do is make themselves miserable.....i am not gonna let them make me miserable too
2006-07-27 09:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by susuze2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey let me make this clear. We were put on this Earth for a reason. And that reason isn't certain. But we all have a life that we all live differently. Some people think it's right to live by rules or "guidelines" set down by OTHER people who they admire. A persons opinion should never effect your life. You have a brain, you know how to use it. And if you are happy with your life than there should be no question if it is good or not. Focus on yourself and your children. Make sure they grow up head strong and happy. People who judge are the same as people who don't know. Good luck honey, I know you'll be ok.
2006-07-27 09:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by emo_musician 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we grow up and grow older and wiser, we tolerate less and that helps us to find and have the best people as friends and as genuine ones.
There will always be people out there who frown upon anything that we do and say. It seems at times we can't do anything right as well.
Best way to deal with people like that is to out smart them. The positives about having a family is just that... family means much to you and you want to have a family because you want to share your values and your experiences with them before you leave this world. Nothing wrong with that at all!
Expressing the positives about why family is important is what you should do always. Regardless of what anyone thinks, people come first!
2006-07-27 09:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss lady your children are still a blessing from God. Who are they to pass judgement on you, when i can bet my life that they have not lived there life perect. We all go through things for a reason a world renowned pastor did a sermon called "Nothing just happens" What the devil means for harm,God means for good. There's something good going to come out of all this. You hold your head up always and stay stong. Phillipians 4:13 " I can do All things through Christ which strenghthen me." You be strong for those babies they need you physically and emotionally.
2006-07-27 09:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by jackey m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok there's this little book I read one time that should help you out. these aren't the exact words, but it goes like this.
there are all these little wooden people running around giving others stickers in the shapes of stars and dots. they get stars when they do something impressive, and dots when they do something embarrasing or wrong. this one little wooden person is all covered with dots and he meets a wooden girl with no dots or stars. she tells him to go see the woodcarver. he goes and the woodcarver says that he doesn't care what the other wooden people think, because they are wooden people just like him. the woodcarver says that the stickers dont stick unless you let them.
so if you don't care about what people think and you know that god loves you then you'll be fine
2006-07-27 09:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by california girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You care about these people and so you care about what they think, to a degree, or you wouldn't be writing. You also want to make your own decisions and not have anyone say anything about it. Point is, you have to make decisions that YOU can live with. If you've done that, then stop worrying about it. If they share their negative opinions, kindly tell them that while you value their opinions, you have to make the decisions that feel right to you and you hope they can move forward and share this joyful time with you. That you hope to focus on what is and make the best of it.
2006-07-27 09:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a little too late for that. Married and practically married are not the same thing and people will look at you differently.
It's up to you to how you decide to deal with their questions or looks.
2006-07-27 09:31:50 · answer #7 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think of yourself. if your happy with who you are then why does what they say matter. Everyone has something about them that other people could look down on them for. and may people feel the same, that people are looking down on the.
i would say its some of the hardest advice in the world, but just be happy. as long as your happy with yourself and having fun in life, its easier to ignore what they are saying
but you dont have to ignore it completely. take what they say into concideration, but you can decide that what they say is not usefull information for you and disregard it.
2006-07-27 10:17:16 · answer #8 · answered by guitar814girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing is, congrats on ur up an coming child, second im assuming your teaching your first child how not to judge others, well unfortuanly the ones who are looking down on you have never learned this lesson,. enjoy this writing, and feel free to pass it out to those who snub there nose!.
Judging
I'm the voice of the silenced.
The ears of those who have turned deaf.
And sight in the darkened shadows of time!
The vigalents of a bee on a quest for pollen,
on a search for truth.
For justice,
for humanity.
You can not hide your evil, from me.
If you try, I shall find you and persacute you.
You will stand before me and I shall be the finally word!
The one who judges your life.
The one your accountable to.
Take heed my warnng,
and I shall fill your life with wonder, amazement beyond reproach!
If not, prepare to be Judged accordingly! tjp
2006-07-27 09:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by close_my_eyes2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
worrying about what people think is going to drive you into a deeper percentage of worrying until depression rides over you and then people would, yes, have something to say, because you gave them something to say.
Face reality, you are pregnant, you have something to be proud of. its your child, enjoy it, make the necessary preparations for the new angel, be proud of having a cuddly angel in hand soon.
Let me tell you something, whatever you do in life, people are going to talk about it. So go on, live your life in sunshine, walk with head high and move on.
Tell me when the baby arrives. I just wish I can hold one in my hands as well one day.
2006-07-27 09:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by Janine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already started but you just haven't realized it yet. You say that you're pregnant with your second child and that you did it on purpose. You did it already knowing what people would think. You consciously made a choice to do something that other people would frown on but that choice would make YOU happy. You're there!
2006-07-27 15:31:51 · answer #11 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋