what do I do?

Question

my mom and I do not get along and I can't go to her house without a fight there or the police coming.

now my parents r getting a divorce and I want my dad to get full custidy of me.

how do I tell my mom that

I mean I still love her we just can't get along

Answer 1

Best way to deal with a divorce is to move on with your own life and when the time comes to settle things, make sure that everyone is in the room at the same time.

Your going to have to speak to a judge eventually, because they will be asking you which parent you want to live with. You have to be honest with yourself and with them and really tell all of your concerns at that time too.

Answer 2

If your mom and dad are going through a divorce then you must know she is probably hurting from that. If you tell her you want your father to take full custody of you, then you might be adding to the pain she is already feeling. You and your mother need to have a one on one talk about what's going on in your lives. I hope you both can come to a conclusion to make your relationship with your mother a good one.

Answer 3

You need to be open and honest with both of your parents. All to often the "adults" think they are the ones who know whats best for the kids and the kids are the ones that suffer. If your mom loves and respects you then she should want you to be happy. As long as your dad isnt abusive, or going to let you run wild and party all the time, the judge should be more than willing to listen to you. Dont be afraid to speak your mind or ask to speak to the judge.

Answer 4

Try talking to her she may understand. Remember that she is your only mom and while you may not understand why she does what she does she most likely has your best interest at heart. If you feel you can not talk to her then write her a letter and put it on her bed make sure you address all of your concerns and feelings that way she knows that you are not trying to hurt her you are just trying to be happy and find your own way in life. There will come a time when you will want to be closer to her its just not right now.

Answer 5

be honest, i personally have never gone threw it and im sorry that you have to but what i would do is just be 100% honest and make sure she knows that you still love her and care about her, tell her why you want your father to have full custidy and tell her that you think its the best decision which im guessing you do since thats what you want

i hope this helps in someway

Answer 6

CALMLY explain to her that due to the current state of the relationship that you think it would be best to spend the time with your father. Do try to call her on a regular basis and VISIT frequently. You don't mention what the fights are about but let's hope that time will cure the problems you have with her. DON"T sever ties with her, like you mentioned you still love her.

Answer 7

Try having a civil conversation with her. write out your points of view before hand so that you know what you want to say. Stay calm, maybe have a mediator there to keep the peace.

Answer 8

just sit down with her and explain that things arent good between the two of u and suggest that u go and stay with your dad for a trial bases then see how u like it then decide that for sure u want to be with you dad more.

Answer 9

You need to make this decision known. If your mother is isn't trying to hear it then you need to talk to a school counselor so they can help your voice be heard in court.

Answer 10

Just tell her exactly what you just told us. If it's true that yall can't get along she should understand why you want that.