how do i tell my mom i don't believe in god?

Question

i'm sure most of you belive, but i don't, i just need advice on how i bring up telling her, she's majorly religious so idk how to tell her without hurting her

Answer 1

You dont have to say a word. Your actions will speak volumes of who you believe in or dont. You are making a very sad choice, but it's is your choice to make. You just made the wrong one.
I will pray for you.

Answer 2

I'd wait for the time to come when you are at dinner and a conversation about religion comes up. Like for instance if you're mom is like "Remember we've got to go to church this sunday".. or "I was at church..." whatever it may be say.. yeah you know... I've been thinking about religion lately and I'm not sure I really feel the same way about it as you. I mean I understand and respect it completely, but I think I am just trying to figure out on my own what I believe.


So state who you are, and firmly stick to it. If you are not religious then remember that it is not part of you. And actually that which is not part of you helps you remember who you really are. That's what respect is all about. Respect those who are different because they too have an important part helping you see yourself. It's a relative world, you would not know of something "Big" if you didn't also see something "Small" near it. Same goes for "Good" and "Evil" and consequently all issues and decisions and all of life. Just remember, one of the smartest men in the world.. Einstein, his great theory was in relativity. It's a reminder of how much it is a part of our universe. Hope this helps.. and just let your mom know it's cool to give satan a hug sometimes.

Answer 3

Why do you have to tell her? Chances are, you'll only cause her grave concern since most religious people believe in hell. Although there is no hell, she believes there is one and would be very upset to think you were headed there. On the other hand, if you decide to tell her you no longer believe, and she ask you why you don't, ask her to explain why she does. I guarantee she can't provide a satisfactory answer. (bc there isn't one) The bottom line is this, either you have good reasons to believe what you believe or you don't. Religious people simply do not have good reasons to hold the beliefs that they do. If they did have good reasons they would not keep going back to the fact that you have to have faith. If you have good reasons you don't need faith. You only need faith when you do not have good reasons for your beliefs.

Answer 4

I agree with the common answer. Don't bother telling her. It's not that big of a deal. You may end up changing your mind in time. If not, so be it, but you don't want to her to try to MAKE you a believer. I think there comes to a point in time in most, if not everyone's life when they begin to question what they believe in. It doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes you a human being with a mind of your own.


HEY LARRY S... Do you believe that anyone who practices a different religion than you is going to hell too? Enough with the religious propaganda. She never said to begin with that her mother believed in a CHRISTIAN god, she just said god. She could be a different religion that doesn't beleive in Jesus. That's the problem with organized religion in the first place. As much as they try to say love your brothers and sisters, they only mean - Love your brothers and sisters AS LONG AS they believe in the SAME thing you do. Weather you believe in Muslim God or Jewish God or Christian God, isn't god just god?

Answer 5

I disagree completely with all those who say "don't tell her" -- and since most of them apparently do believe in god, it's amazing that they're so anxious to support living a lie which is supposed to be against their beliefs!

Tell her. Tell her in a nice way, something like, "Mom, I love you and I respect you, but I just don't believe in the same things you do. I don't believe in god, or religion. I hope you can respect me enough to accept my beliefs and still love me, like I accept yours and still love you. Not believing in god doesn't make me a bad person, and I wanted to be honest with you and tell you how I really feel." If you have a good relationship with her, you should be able to say something like that and have a good talk about it. Better to be honest with the ones you love than try and deceive them. Good luck.

Answer 6

I have a brother with the same problem. He needs to tell our gparents because they're always asking him to do these religious things, but he doesn't feel right because it's like he's living a lie.

I just told them that he needs to tell them that he respects them for having their beliefs but that he just doesn't believe the same way and he'd like them to respect him for that. He agreed it's probably the best, but now is working on the nerve to tell them, cuz no matter how he does it, it will still hurt them some. However, that's what I did and it worked.

Answer 7

What a sweet ?. Obviously you love your mom or you wouldn't be asking this?. But, there really is no need to bring this up, "out of the blue? I would wait till she brings it up! Also, I dont believe in God either but I do believe that there is "something" out there bigger and greater than me, just not sure what it is.. Take care

Answer 8

Why bring it up? Wouldn't it be soon enough when it does come up in conversation? You could then say something about how your arrived at your conclusion and ask her to do the same. Respect for one another with differing beliefs is possible with a little effort on both parts.

Answer 9

Tell her you dont believe in god and explain why and say that you are really sorry but we are all different and since the way science is advancingg you dont believe in god tell her slowly when shes in a good mood.Hope this helps.

Answer 10

Just tell her the truth and hopefully she will accept it. To validate your argument, explain to her why you don't believe in a God presenting her an intellectual foundation in opposition to a Diety. The clause is freedom of conscience.