I often find my self up all night thinking about him! I sometimes cry because I've never been in love before and i'm always worried that I'm going to screw up our relationship. We often have deep conversations about what we are going to do when we go to college and about our family's pasts that no one knows about. Its the greatest feeling in the world... I get butterflies just thinking about him. But it is also the scarriest feeling in the world. Its scarry for me because to me it seems so hard to feel so much for that one special person. Its a love that runs deep. What can I do to get myself over that scarry feeling of being vulnerable?
2006-07-27 08:57:17 · 7 answers · asked by Kassie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't. That sort of thing takes time to get over. Feeling vunerable is understandable, especially if you've been betrayed before. Being in love is very scary, but the best thing, maybe the only thing, that you can do is think how he makes you feel. Love, as scary as it is, also makes you feel safe when you're with that person. You have to trust him, trust he won't hurt you.
2006-07-27 09:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by callmegoddess618 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being in love is a beautiful and sometimes scarry thing. Just don't worry about it, and enjoy the little things as well as all the special moments between you and your mate. Just go with the flow
2006-07-27 16:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by latina21_01ucf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's so scary to think that you're so in love because you're so afraid he'll hurt you or you'll hurt him and you dont want to do that.
it's like with me. i love him so deeply, but im afraid to show just how much i do love him because i dont want it to be too much. and im afraid that if i give him my whole heart he might break it. i know he wont but it scares me. and what sucks is you're always thinking, what if this happens? what if that happens?
i dont think you'll ever get over the scary feeling completely. I haven't and my boyfriend and i have been together for about 5 months now.
just think about all the fun times you guys have and how much he loves you when you start feeling vulnerable. it usually helps me.
Good Luck
Aaron's Angel
2006-07-27 16:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in love with my girl for over three years now and I am still scared **** less. I think that's just the way it is when you have something like that to lose!
2006-07-27 17:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Shaggy N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is the scariest feeling because yr whole thought process and feelings are all about this person.
2006-07-27 16:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. share your worries.
2006-07-27 16:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by momo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
READ IT CAREFULLY THEN YOU WILL SURELY KNOW WHAT IT IS ....
Love is a condition or phenomenon of emotional primacy, or absolute value. Love generally includes an emotion of intense attraction to either another person, a place, or thing; and may also include the aspect of caring for or finding identification with those objects, including self-love. Love can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience usually felt by a person for another person. Love is commonly considered impossible to define.
The concept of love, however, is subject to debate. Some deny the existence of love, calling it a recently invented abstraction. Others maintain that love exists but is indefinable; being a quantity which is spiritual, metaphysical, or philosophical in nature. The views that love does not exist or is indefinable may underlie the fact that approximately 13 percent of cultures have no word for love. [1] [2] The remaining 87 percent attempt to define this abstract concept and apply it to everyday life. Love is one of the most common themes in art and often times is an excuse for " bad art". Some psychologists maintain that love is the abstract action of lending one's "boundary" or "self esteem" to another
Overview
Love has several different meanings in the English language, from something that gives a little pleasure to something for which one would die. And in contrast to the definition at the top, frequently people use the verb "love" to indicate want or desire for themselves as opposed to for another. For example: "I love that lamp," does not refer to desiring wellness for the lamp, but rather to the desire for the lamp. The word also frequently indicates elevated appreciation or admiration: "I love that artist," An individual might state.
Cultural differences make any universal definition of love difficult to establish. Expressions of love may include the love for a soul or mind, the love of laws and organizations, love for a body, love for nature, love of food, love of money, love for learning, love of power, love of fame, and love for the respect of others. Different people place varying degrees of importance on the kinds of love they receive. Love is essentially an abstract concept, easier to experience than to explain. Many believe, as stated originally by Virgil that "Love conquers all", or as stated by The Beatles, "All you need is love". Bertrand Russell describes love as a condition of 'absolute value', as opposed to 'relative value'.
Types
Courtly love – a late medieval conventionalized code prescribing certain conduct and emotions for ladies and their lovers
Erotic love – desire characterized by sexual desires
Familial love – affection brokered through kinship connections, intertwined with concepts of attachment and bonding
Free love – sexual relations according to choice and unrestricted by marriage
Platonic love – a close relationship in which sexual desire is nonexistent or has been suppressed or sublimated
Puppy love – romantic affection that is not "mature" or not "true." The term reflects a bias that love between youngsters is somehow less valid.
Religious love – devotion to one's deity or theology
Romantic love – affection characterized by a mix of emotional and sexual desire
True love - love without condition, motive or attachment. Loving someone just because they are themselves, not their actions or beliefs in particular.
Unrequited love – affection and desire not reciprocated or returned
Scientific views
Throughout history, predominantly, philosophy and religion have speculated the most into the phenomenon of love. In the last century, the science of psychology has written a great deal on the subject. Recently, however, the sciences of evolutionary psychology, evolutionary biology, anthropology, neuroscience, and biology have begun to take centre stage in discussion as to the nature and function of love.
Biological models of sex tend to see it as a mammalian drive, just like hunger or thirst. Psychology sees love as more of a social and cultural phenomenon. Psychologist Robert Sternberg created his Triangular theory of love and argued that love has three different components : Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Intimacy is a form where two people can share secrets and various details of their personal lives. Intimacy is usually shown in friendships and romantic love affairs. Commitment on the other hand is the expectation that the relationship is going to last forever. The last and most common form of love is simply sex, or passion. Passionate love is shown in infatuation as well as romantic love. This led researchers such as Yela to further refine the model by seperating Passion into two independents components : Erotic Passion and Romantic Passion.
Cultural views
Although there exist numerous cross-cultural unified similarities as to the nature and definition of love, as in there being a thread of commitment, tenderness, and passion common to all human existence, there are differences. For example, in India, with arranged marriages commonplace, it is believed that love is not a necessary ingredient in the initial stages of marriage – it is something that can be created during the marriage; whereas in Western culture, by comparison, love is seen as a necessary prerequisite to marriage.
Religious views
Love, in the form of subjective devotion, seems to have been originally understood as the proper response to idealised objective natural forces (pagan polytheism). Later religions shifted the emphasis towards single abstractly-oriented objects like God, the law, the book, and the church (formalised monotheism).
Alongiside these two objects of subjective human love (mono and poly), there a third view which recognises a state or truth distinct from (and often antagonistic to) the idea that there is a difference between the subject and the object (pantheism). Love is reality itself, of which we, moving through time, imperfectly interprete ourselves as isolated part.
Definitional issues
Dictionaries tend to define love as deep affection or fondness.[3] In colloquial use, according to polled opinion, the most favoured definitions of love include the words:[4]
life - someone or something for which you would give your life.
care - someone or something about which you care more than yourself.
In common use, care refers to a mental or emotional state of predisposition in which one has an interest or concern for someone or something. To care for someone, may also refer to a disquieted state of mixed uncertainty, apprehension, and responsibility; or a cause for such anxiety. Caring for an object, such as a house, refers to a state of attendant maintenance; or may also refer to a state of charge or supervision, as in under a doctor’s care.
friendship - favoured interpersonal associations or relationships.
union
family - people related via common ancestry.
bond.
2006-07-28 04:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by vishal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋