i dont want to resent her. but i cant help it. im really against it. like 100% and i know she thinks its her only choice. and i want to help her get thru this and tell her this isnt her only choice. but how can i do that with out her thinking im trying to run her life. any ideas?
2006-07-27 08:56:29 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
ok..scarlett rose is an idiot..point blank...
she is taking up wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too much space with her idiotic babble of why abortion is so called "right"....whatever....im sick of her putting that same speech on every abortion question..
SCARLETT ROSE need to save all that DRAMA for somebody who gives a damn...because dont nobody REALLY care what people think on yahoo answers..most of us are on here for amusement......so get over yourself!!.....i mean damn if you like it that much why dont you wish upon a star to be aborted..since its nothing wrong with it........right?.....
and if you think its right that means you are for ALL abortions ESPECIALLY the ones in which they give women at 9 MONTHS PREGNANT(OH SOME DOCTORS WILL DO IT)...they induce labor, then reach end and stab the baby in the head, or break its neck..then they proceed to rip the other limbs......oh but according to you ALL abortion is right, RIGHT?.....its the women choice RIGHT....NO ITS MURDER......
OH AND YES THIS COMMENT IS FOR SCARLETT ROSE...
2006-07-27 13:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by outspokenone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know why, but I'm still shocked when I read/hear people say it's the "lady's body". Ultimately, you are to love her unconditionally. HOWEVER, that doesn't mean that you should express your feelings and opinions. In fact, if you two are true friends, it's your obligation as a friend to not only speak your mind, BUT to educate her. I know someone who had an abortion, and regrets it to this day. You can talk with her if you'd like. A lot of girls get into this situation, and want a quick way out. Educate her as to how the BABY feels pain. There are book as resources you can pull up, or send for. There are also places (crisis pregnancy centers) who can help with diapers, training, etc. Contact a good bible-believing church in your area and inquire. I don't know why people don't give the advise of adoption first. There are so many couples who can't have children....who would love that child. I don't get it. People want to live and do as they please, but not have consequences.
Pray for her, and ask others to. SHE will have to decide, but give her all the knowledge and chance to make the right decision. Love her no matter what.
2006-07-27 09:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by da dude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isnt anything you CAN do!! It is her choice and she will have to live with the emotional consequences! Although I would never have an abortion myself....I do think that it is a womans right to choose what she wants to do....and if you are truly her friend, you will be there to support her in whatever decision she makes, whether you agree or not. Remember that, she could have many reasons that she feels she needs to get an abortion...it is her choice, not yours.
Be there for her, this will be a difficult time for her no matter what she chooses! Good Luck!!
2006-07-27 09:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my, that is a very hard situation. i am also against abortion 100%. if i were in your situation, i think i would have to say something. maybe just pull her to the side and tell her how you feel, and that you dont want her to think you're trying to run her life, but you have concerns.
abortion is wrong. it's not the babies fault that you had sex before you were ready to have children. the baby didn't open your legs. or not be protected or on birth control. thats the woman's mistake and she should make the best of it. tell her about all the people in the world that want babies and cant have them, encourage her to put it up for adoption if she really doesn't want to have a baby.
babies are a miracle from God, why would you ever want to destroy one, why?
i would offer to keep a baby if it meant saving it's life.
maybe that baby is here for a reason.
2006-07-27 09:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by TN girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really not about what your thoughts are on it. the focus should be entirely on her and her life.
its her choice.
you can talk to her, and say, if you change your mind, heres some stuff you could do - but do not express your opinion - just the factual options, and then hug her. because shes your friend.
abortion isnt an easy decision for anyone - and its a time in her life when the last thing - anyone should do is enforce their will. its her life - not yours. unless your prepared to the raise the child as your own - you have no call or right to resent her.
2006-07-27 09:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me when i was about 17/18 or so. I never could get over it, and really it ruined our friendship. Mainly b/c she was a very religious person and always trying to push god and her religion on me, yet she was the one sleeping around and getting pg and i was not. then she wanted an abortion? she never ended up having one, i think the pgcy test was wrong or something but just the fact that she was going to have one, i lost all respect for her. In the long run i dont regret it, she hasnt made many good decisions in her life.
2006-07-27 09:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mina222 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make this decision for her -- IT'S NOT YOUR BODY! Stay out of it and shut you're mouth. If she wants your opinion, she'll ask for it.
You don't know what she's going through unless you've been in her situation, you may not be 100% against this if you were the one pregnant.
If you push your beliefs too hard you'll lost her as a friend AND she'll still do what she feels is best for her.
2006-07-27 09:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't about you and what you want...What you need to do is be her friend. Support her, help her, and be there for her. It might not be a choice you would have made for yourself, but making your friends live the way you want is not being a friend. I'm sure this will be hard for you, but imagine what it must be like for her.
2006-07-27 09:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by All I Hear Is Blah Blah Blah... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she had it youd help out and make her think what if she gets rid of this one what will happen to her (emotionaly you never forget) depends how old she is also.But just talk dont push her,her choice after all and your only the concerned friend
2006-07-27 09:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by kez_124 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be there for her as a best friend. Offer her pros/cons, but she has to make the choice for herself. You can not force to make the decision you would like as she has to live with it. Be supportive and let her know no matter what you will be there for her.
2006-07-27 09:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by mergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋