L.S.S.: I broke up with my boyfriend this past weekend.We had been together for 2 yrs and a half(on and off)mostly on.There was a misunderstanding.He saw it was my fault,when all i saw was that he hurt me.I admit that throughout our relationship i've had my guard up just so i wouldn't get hurt.i've been hurt a lot in my life.Basically,i have alot of pride,i never want to be wrong,i never apologize or run to him even if it's my fault,and when i lose my temper i run over everybody and i don't care who i hurt.BUT,I love him more than anything else in the world,that he actually became my world.Besides the fact that i have too much pride,i've shown my unconditional love in every other way possible.He loved me enough to put up with my attitude for as long as he could and always humbled himself by kissing my *** 24/7.BUT,he doesn't understand me and he doesn't love me as much as i do him.(uncontionally)He led me to believe he did,thats why my love for him grew.And he also promised me he....
2006-07-27 08:43:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wouldn't give up on me.I had set it in my head,and i was going to change for him.He didn't deserve my attitude.But obviously that wasn't gonna happen overnight.I had to work on it little by little.Turns out,i had reached his limit.We broke up and he let me go.He switch over the roles and was not gonna make an effort to get back with me.He wanted me to do it.Well,i did.I called him because i was going crazy without him.We talked 'till 3:00am last night.And i cried my eyes out.We talked until he finally understood me and I him.He wants us to work things out,but said it had to be a mutual thing.I agree.The only problem is what if on an off day i explode like i used to and he'll think i'll never change and leave me.I wouldn't be able to take that.He said he'd TRIED to be patient with me,but TRYING is not good enough for me.I need someone who'll actually be there for me,bad or good.Helping me along the way.And now,seeing how hurt i am,he says he doesn't deserve me.I don't want a broken ♥
2006-07-27 08:43:47 · update #1
Perhaps you have "tested" your boyfriend to see whether he will stick by you even when you are difficult and unpleasant to be with. I suspect this might be due to past rejections. However, I think that as an adult (i'm assuming you are) you need to come clean--tell him the truth about your fears, your insecurities, etc. And, flying off the handle is not your "right." Perhaps you need to receive counseling about how to cope w/disappointments, loss and anger in more appropriate ways. Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? It seems to me you are unhappy w/your current approach. It takes a big person to admit their mistakes and apologize. It doesn't diminish you--in fact, I believe it builds character. You cannot throw temper tantrums and expect people to "understand." The only one that loves you "unconditionally," is God.
2006-07-27 08:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, that is not exist a way to, run from the pain.
I think is not a way out to what we feel.
I just think the only thing we have, after that
is try, with all our heart, to have hope...hope in that the life
dont stop (feels like) but dont.
So may be the best thing to do is, try to live...
Cry just in the nighst...
keep going out...
Read a Book...
Wrok more hard...
Study something...
I try all this, and i never forget.
So the only thing i can say is that, the time, DONT MAKE U FORGET, but with the pass of the months, will not feel to bad...
Will not sore, to much...and one day u will find out, u are living again, ur life.
2006-07-27 15:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears the problems start and must end with you...You need to deal with your insecurity of not wanting to get your heart broken...you don't seem to realize truly loving someone is risking exactly that...there is no greater joy to share your love unconditionally with someone else, however, you have tons of conditions, not to mention you don't allow yourself to give what you hope to receive out of this relationship...your boundaries are putting so many restrictions on your bf's behavior that there is no real satisfaction because the extent of the affection returned is limited...example, I love sincerely...but cautiously...the more my partner is willing to share their heart , the more I share myself...if their love is limited, then I must ask myself is this enough to satisfy my needs...can this go further in time? if not, I need to decide whether my needs are being met or not....Your restrictions on your bf are way to demanding...they prevent he giving what you are hesitant to share yourself....you need to realize love is worth the risk of broken heart...we deserve the best out of life...and a broken heart proves you have done just that, .good luck, blessings.
2006-07-27 16:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him and move on. You left him for a reason the first time second time third time etc. Move on and get over it. If it didn't work all them times it will never work. Trust me stop wasting your time I was back and forth for over 12 years with someone til I really got sick of it. I moved on and met someone that I love deeply. Him who knows about him and who cares.
2006-07-27 15:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should work on Ur temper for him and change Ur ways for him if u luv him as much as u say u do he has been patient let him not think that he took u back in vain and that he wasted his time doin so thing about it U LOVE HIM change to Please him OK!!!!!
2006-07-27 15:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by kimmy21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres only so much bullshit a person can deal with
2006-07-27 15:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl_mandy82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋