(Female Respondants Over 25, please...I PROMISE that THIS will be the LAST ONE!) Okay, those of you who have responded have said that you would take the not-so-rich guy over the other one...now add to the equation that the not-so-rich guy weighs nearly 280 lbs with a noticeable pot belly, salt & pepper hair and carries a good deal of mental & emotional baggage (though not in a Prada bag...it's more like Samsonite! *HA HA*). NOW who would you pick? (OOOHHH, I can't wait for all the reversals on THIS one *S*)
2006-07-27 08:43:29 · 5 answers · asked by Sagistar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow ... read your whole series of q's. i agree with everyone else ... you've got to move the hell on with your life. do you realize how much control over your life you've given this woman? for the past, what, 15 years? this woman who's obviously moved on herself?
this full disclosure thing you're doing ... it's as if you're daring us to like you anyway, despite the baggage and the mom and the weight. it's a little creepy. and it's not going to get you laid, i'm afraid.
women (the smart ones, anyway) are attracted to men who can take care of themselves. find a therapist and talk your way through the baggage... you'll feel so much better about yourself, you wouldn't believe.
get creative about the mom situation ... if you can't get your own place (she could legitimately need you around), maybe reconfiguring the place for more privacy is worth some thought.
join a gym. if you can't do that, resolve to take two 20 minute walks every day; one first thing in the a.m., one after dinner. rain or shine, hot or cold. you'll drop a few lbs., get some color in your cheeks and light in your eyes, have more energy.
as you take each step, becoming more confident and self aware, you'll begin to exude the self respect and self assurance which are more effective pheromones than "moola", etc. any day.
start taking care of yourself. we'll notice.
2006-07-27 09:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by Tara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must admit that I missed your first question. But I jump at the chance to answer this one. I'm 35 yrs. old and married twice. My first husband didn't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of. He weighed 400 lbs at his heaviest weight. But when things were good with us it was really good and I would give just about anything to have those good times back. But they are gone for good now. I am remarried now and I live in a very nice house and get a new car just about every couple of years. We have a new boat and a new ATV. I have everything materially I could ever ask for. He is not overweight much. He has a little pot belly, but not much of one. Although I know he loves me dearly, we will never have between us what I had with my first husband.
So to answer your question it would all depend on how the guy treated me. If he was able to treat me well and love me like I want to be loved, then I would pick the fat, poor guy anyday. Not only that, but I would help him work through his problems because that is what it takes to have a successful relationship.
Money is nice to have, but with it comes a whole new set of problems. Life is hard enough and every relationship will have it's ups and downs. But it all depends on how much you are willing to work on that relationship that makes it worth while.
2006-07-27 09:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by dollfacedbaby1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, darlin I am 30 years old and I have read all of your questions about this and to answer you if I had to choose it would be the not-so-rich guy and I'll tell you why. Money does not solve all of life's problems and I don't know anyone who doesn't have so kind of mental & emotional baggage. Life is hard on everyone and whoever says otherwise is kidding themselves. If a man treats me good and treats others well and is trying very hard like most of us to work on our baggage then that's the type of man I want no matter what he looks like.
2006-07-27 09:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by deathtolove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 06:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by pantle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In that case - the rich one. Fat men they can lose weight but if they have mental and emotional issues you can't ever change that!!!
2006-07-27 08:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋