my sister is 4 years younger than me and having trouble with this girl. our neighbor is babysitting one of my sisters not so good friends. the girl always rides her bike through are yard and asks my sister to play outside. she doesnt want to but she feels bad about saying no. she ends up going and coming inside crying because the girl is mean to her. very mean.
please help. if you have any ideas on what i can do i could really use the advice.
signed,
laura
2006-07-27 08:30:29 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ive tried confronting her.
ive tried yelling.
it doesnt work
one time we were swimming in our pool and she sat in the yard across the street and watched us. what do i do then. i asked them to move and they threatened to call the cops i mean shes 9 she cant but what do i do.
2006-07-27 08:35:03 · update #1
Simple answer! Your sister needs to stand up for herself and say "No!" and that she doesn't play with mean girls. She may need her big sister there to help her out. She can think up all kinds of excuses like "no, I'm not feeling up to it", "my stomach hurts", "I'm busy, maybe later", or just plain "No". Does she have any other friends in the neighborhood she can be playing with instead? If not, maybe this is why she feels like she has to play with this little girl because she is lonely and has no one else her age to play with.
Do me a favor.....be a good sister and help her stand up to this little girl. If she doesn't like playing with her, she doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to. It sounds like she might be a little afraid of this girl and needs you to help her. If she is not strong enough to tell the girl no, you tell the girl no for her. Thats what sisters are for right? Try that out ok?
2006-07-27 08:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 13⤊ 0⤋
Next time the mean girl is next door ask your sister to stay inside or take her to the park, movies, out to eat. Anywhere away from that girl. If the mean girl comes over asking for your sister just tell her she's not there.
2006-07-27 15:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask the girl very nicely to get off my lawn and dont come back.(in the nicest way ever) then i would tell ur sister to tell the girl thsat if she wants to be friends and play together that she needs to treat her like a friend and ack nice toward her.
2006-07-27 15:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kayla J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm.... tough one....
i think i'd start with explaining things to your sister. she should learn to steer clear of people who try to build themselves up by tearing other people down. work on her self esteem a bit, explain that there are LOTS of nice people in the world, so there's no reason to spend time on someone who wants to hurt or be mean to you.
then i'd confront the troublemaker - find out what her issue is. maybe try to help her see that people are going to hold a grudge about her behaviour by asking if she remembers someone being mean to her years ago.
finally, if that dosen't work, confront your neighbor - get the girls parent's number and contact info, give them to your parents and let them talk it out. chances are, the troublemakers parents don't know she's being rotten, and will take steps to correct the behaviour on their end.
good luck !!!
2006-07-27 15:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by malathonx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur sister shouldn't have to hang out w/ someone she doesn't like. Just don't have her hang out w/ the girl, even if she feels bad about it. She's gonna feel worse when she comes in crying after playing w/ her.
2006-07-27 15:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by MADRA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up excuses like she has chiken poxs or a cold or has to take a nap or a bath or eat any excuse will do.
Or the best thing you could do is tell her she dosent want to play because she always ends up getting hurt.
2006-07-27 15:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by scholaryoshi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sister, and tell her that she should say no to this girl who asks her to play and ends up making her cry. It would probably be best if she even ignored the girl.
2006-07-27 15:34:13 · answer #7 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would separate them. Don't let her go outside. And talk to this girl about riding through your yard, if that doesn't work then it's time to talk to her parents.
2006-07-27 15:34:39 · answer #8 · answered by sexygothbaby1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her not to hang out with the girl. If she has to lie and say she is punished or doing something with you. Then do it.Tell her to start sticking up for herself and not to let anyone be mean to her
2006-07-27 15:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to my 2 year old once, she didn't like the girl because she was bossy and rude to her. i would take your sister over to the house of that other little girl and ask to speak to her guardian. tell her that the lil one is being mean to your sister and that she really get's hurt and winds up crying, it worked for me, hope it does for you.
2006-07-27 15:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by Disney♥♥Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋