i've been seeing this guy for a while now. and i thought everything was good but theres this girl that is married that he use to mess around with before me. But he still talks to her alot during the day. he talks to her more than me. He says theres no feelings between them, but its hard for me to believe it, with the way he acts and defends her when i asked him about it. He said that they were friends and he had no feelings for her. But really how would he feel if i talked to an x-booty call. what do i do???
2006-07-27 08:23:27 · 11 answers · asked by lovergirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have never met this girl nor do we ever do anything together............
2006-07-27 08:50:50 · update #1
i told him that if she ever divorced/seperated her husband and if he is stupid to go back to her that to remember this she cheated on her husband with you she will cheat on you with someone else!
2006-07-27 08:52:27 · update #2
I don't know.
You may need to really sit down and tell him how you feel. Right now it seem like he doesn't pay attention to you at all. If you really love him, you need to tell him that you feel bad when he's not talking to you. Like you don't feel his love for you anymore. As soon as you let him know he should act differently than he is now. Like he is more loving.
But if he doesn't you need to tell him that he is going to lose the best thing that has ever happened to him, and that you loved him so much, that you feel hurt that you don't feel the love back.
Because I believe that you can find someone that can love you and protect you at all costs.
2006-07-27 08:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by Brandon S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out if this girl is still married to her husband. Does your "boyfriend" ever talk to her husband? If you suspect that the girl's husband does not know about their conversations, then something is probably still going on. It seems very unusual that he would talk with her more than he talks with you. Why don't you find out if her husband knows about the continuing friendship by throwing a 'get-together' at your place and invite him along with the "happy couple" or set up a "double date" for you and him and his married friends. If he finds a way out of it, Drop him- like he's hot. He must have been a cheater anyway to have "messed around with" a married woman"!
2006-07-27 15:35:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not his friend and you should not trust what he says. I know that you have talked to him about this already, but you need to let him know that since he wants to continue his relationship with her that you can't be with him and then leave him alone. Don't give him an ultimatum for two reasons: 1-He'll continue to see and talk to her even if he tells you that he isn't and 2-he's already made his decision about what he wants-he wants to continue to have a relationship with her.
No man and woman who used to sleep together can be friends. There are still feelings there no matter what he says. And I'm sure that her husband doesn't know the extent of their relationship, if he knows about it at all.
Move on.
2006-07-27 15:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really talk to a friend everyday ? Do you talk to any of your friends that many times during the day ? The only time someone talks to another person a lot is when they are interested in them.
2006-07-27 15:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do the same exact thing to him and show him how it feels. Don't act like it bothers you and you will see a difference in his attitude the more you blame him for having more to do with his ex that will make him get further away from you and you dint want that.
2006-07-27 15:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by country girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appear that he does have feelings for her. Why would a man defend someone that he doesn't have feeling for? It is definitely more than what he is sayin. If I was you, I would look some where else for Mr. Right b/c it is obvious that that guy is not him!!! Good Luck.
2006-07-27 15:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to respect you and not talk to her as much. Tell him how you feel and that your not able to continue the relationship not feeling you can ultimately trust him.His response will tell you which action to take. Good luck!
2006-07-27 15:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang out with them together. i found out my ex was cheating on me just by the way he looked at his mistress when we went to waffle house one night. the eyes don't lie. watch and see how they act around eachother. if the 3 of you go out and you are the 3rd wheel, you might need to reconsider who you are dating but if she is the 3rd wheel, everything may be alright.
2006-07-27 15:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by stephanie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happend to me also....but i think that you should do what your heart tells you. Do you trust him? If you do then i think that you should just trust him. Talk to him about it tell him how you feel it might help you and him a little.
2006-07-27 15:27:14 · answer #9 · answered by Samatha P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are "just" good friends he should include you in things they do together...if he doesnt ..your suspicions may be right. they have a sexual past...that is hard to overlook.
i feel so lucky...my best friend (male) is just that...we have never had sex ..and dont plan on it either. he is very good friends with my babe and my ex-hubby.
2006-07-27 15:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋