For the "Christans" who hate gays, What would you do if you found out your child was gay and why?

Question

I am serious and do not mean to offend anyone.

I love the sinner, but hate the sin”. This is one of the most arrogant and self-righteous statements to justify prejudice I have ever heard. The implication is #1 that they are not sinners, and #2, that they are so noble and humble that even they are able to love us despite OUR imperfection.

For many GLBT people...their sexuality is the only real thing in their lives and to hate "the sin" is really a way of saying, "and we hate you also."
Well…if they really LOVED the sinner (referring to us), why is it that chances are they haven’t lifted a finger to talk to gay people, befriend us, invite us to dinner, or find out what we go through? And if they do, their only goal is to change us. We are a project to them. A challenge to be conquered. There is no real love for us.

The only contact they make with us is to tell us we’re going to hell and usually from across the street or on a TV monitor. They like to say they love us because it makes them look like saints…

Answer 1

i would love my child regardless...I am a heterosexual. my brother is gay. I don't believe he chose his sexuality any more than i chose mine. i don't think promiscuity and a life of sexual lust is good for our health, heart, or soul--and that goes for all sexual orientations. I embrace the love between people and I believe that in the final analysis, God will judge us by our heart.
Many Christians are hyppocites and don't even admit that--they jump on the bandwagon of what is popular to "crucify," yet Christ said, "let he who hasn't sinned, cast the first stone." I am a Christian and I am also a siinner--in need of God's grace and mercy. I can not judge anyone.

Answer 2

Well, I am A Christian, no quotations needed... but I don't hate gays. I have a daughter that told me about 5 years ago that she was gay. We have had some really long talks about her lifestyle choices, not only in sexuality, but in life in general. I love my daughter, but as much as I do, God loves her more.
Should I lose my daughter because of hate or not understanding that she as well as my other two daughters do things that conflict with my Christian walk. They don't confess Christianity, but they know the Word, and what it means.
I have to wait on the Lord for Him to do a work in them.
It says in the bible that He will complete in them every good work.
I can't live by faith and walk by faith, if I argue and try to dissuade her from what I perceive as a hard life. We live in an area where gay and lesbian lifestyles are looked down on. I have had people tell me I should shake her off my shoes like dirt.
When did Jesus not meet people where they needed Him the most. Why shouldn't I. Hope this helps. be blessed in Christ.

Answer 3

I'm openly gay and grew up in a strong Mormon family. Nothing has changed between me and my family when I told them (they actually already knew before I even told them). They've been really loving and accepting and realize that my sexuality was something that I didn't choose. They don't necessarily agree that I "act out on it" but my parents have always made it very clear to me that they'll still love me the same no matter what happens or what I do. That's good enough for me.

Answer 4

True Christian's don't ahte anyone. They "hate the sin, love the sinner". But to answer your question. I would love them no matter what. Any sin not forgiven can send you to hell...be it lying, cheating or whatever.

But let's make one thing clear. We choose to sin. We choose or preference also. You are not born gay no more than anyone is born a pedophile or liar or straight. things that happen in your life mold who you become.

Answer 5

Good question!

I'm gay, and my mother was very outspokenly anti-gay because of her religioius beliefs up until the day I came out to her. I was certain she would disown me or tell me she hated me.

She didn't. She loves me and is very vocal about how much she loves me now. She doesn't try to force her beliefs on me at all, and while she is by no means a PFLAG mom, she's still my mom and I love her the same.

Answer 6

I am a Christian. I don't hate gays. I hate what they to to themselves and to others. They try to influence others to go their way. God does not hate them either. God loves them. God rejects them because they reject Him. Read Romans chapter 1 in The Holy bible and you will see that God calls them reprobate-rejected by God. I didn't write the rules, God did. If I found out my son/daughter was gay, I would tell them they were wrong but I would still love them, just as much, or more, than I do now.

Answer 7

Why do people keep saying Christians hate gays? Christians don't hate gays. Christians hate the sin, not the person (just like God hates the sin, not the person). So, if my child was gay, I would love him/her, but I would hate the sin.

Answer 8

I'd tell them that I don't agree with it but still love them. I would never disown my child for his or her lifestyle, but really, a true Christian would have instilled in their child that homosexuality is a sin.


Hate the sin, not the sinner.

Answer 9

I would make sure they have different version of the Bible. The Bible talks of sins of the flesh and how some people became eunichs for the kingdom. I would encourage my gay son or daughter to turn their back on sexual lust.

http://www.mechanicsburgnewchurch.org

Answer 10

I'm gay. I'm not Christian. But I've seen many of my christian friends either stay closeted until they move out or be disowned by their parents for coming out of the closet. But there are some very accepting households. It all depends on the people.