I asked her:"so you would give us a true chance once you know your ready?"
She said:
Yes,if I feel like my feelings are there and its something we can build on, yes i do. but for now I’m not ready to commit to anyone
I have so much **** going that I just want to take it a day at a time. I really just want to concentrate on school and getting my own place. I want to be on my own and fend for myself. That’s been something that I have always wanted to do...
2006-07-27 08:07:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i'm 26..she is 23
2006-07-27 08:14:24 · update #1
I agree with her wholeheartedly. Sometimes it's a bit difficult getting emotionally involved with an individual if you haven't dealt with certain important aspects of your life. It can seem frustrating to persons looking in, but it's more conducive to a healthy and possibly long-lasting relationship if both partners are psychologically prepared for something as serious as marriage.
If she says she isn't ready and you truly care for her, my advice is wait. Wait until she gets her act together and give her the emotional space she requires to think things through. Do this and it's very likely she'll appreciate it in the long run :).
Take care.
2006-07-27 08:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is not sure about you guys and needs some time and space... it happens. A good relationship ebbs and flows in the beginning. I don't know all the details surrounding your relationship, nor how long you have been dating, but I would think you should honor her wishes and do some great things for you too.
Girls like a guy that stands on his own two feet and has other interests than just them. Sounds like you guys may be young or she has not had a lot of life experience... trust me- you want this to happen. You would rather she do her thing, experience what she wants and know that you are the right one than to pressure her into something... right??
I say keep her as a friend, tell her you respect her decision and would love to hang out with her and then as hard as it is- leave her be... do your own thing and she will either realize you are it or move on. Consider yourself fortunate that she gave you a heads up- RESPECT IT.
2006-07-27 15:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My now fiance made it a prerequisite to the engagement that I live on my own for a while. He is 35 and I am 24. We have been together for 3 yrs, engaged for 2 1/2. It's got to take place. It's not a bad thing. I wish I did it for longer.
2006-07-27 16:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...if she's not seeing anyone else, and you are still a couple...I think it's a good thing. She will be a much stronger person...and in turn, a much stronger partner if that all works out for her. I was able to stay single for a few years and sort it all out before I met my fiance. I think that is the reason this is the strongest, healthiest relationship I've been in...and the only one from now on.
2006-07-27 15:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by green is clean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what's your question? Her answer to the question you asked her sounds very reasonable to me. She's not in a place in her life where she feels ready to commit to anyone, not just you...ANYONE. So if you want to take a chance and wait until she's ready for you, then do so, if not, then don't.
2006-07-27 16:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like someone who has her life mapped out. Ask her when in her mapping she will be ready. If she says not for awhile and you are ready, you might want to move on. My sister has her boyfriend hanging on hold with a list of things she wants accomplished before she will get married. But then he wants to wait.
2006-07-27 22:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what's you question, Is it how should you interpret her response and if that is what you mean then from what I gather in that response, no she doesn't want to commit and let you off pretty easy respect her decision and take it for what it's worth or if you're ready to settle down with someone not necessarily her then you need to look else where!
2006-07-27 15:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by souljagirpart2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she is a strong woman who does not want to depend on a man for anything - including having her own home. I believe that she will wait on you as she is simply concentrating on school and getting her life in order before settling down w/one person.
2006-07-27 15:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have found yourself a wonderful women who knows what she needs and wants and is not going to lead you on at all. It sounds like if you stick around, you will become, in time, a very happy man. It might hurt to hear now, but if you look back on it in time you will be so thankful for her honesty.
2006-07-27 17:24:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she cares about you a great deal , but wants to get some stuff out of the way - I am betting she has not had tons of independence and is looking for that.
2006-07-27 15:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by Student123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋