Is it possible to not be part of the problem or the solution? Check out the details.?

Question

Isn't that called minding your business? My view is simple, the way a gay person feels towards oppo sex relations is how I feel towards same sex relations. It's revolting. So I don't care to see it or be around it. Thats not cause for destruction no-one deserves to be beat up or whatever. I went through this with my Mom and Dad, Mom left dad to go be Gay or whatever. So I hated her for a long time as a kid for what she did to my pops he was good. Now I just don't care, she trys to involve me and as long as it's just her cool. If her girlfriends come around I'm out or I'm an asshole towards the situation. The best thing I can do for Gay people is not care. So it possible to not be a part of the problem or the solution? I asked Gay people I got one answer so you guys tell me.

Answer 1

first of all, thanks for choosing my answer as best, sure it's possible not to be part of the problem or the solution, and its not that you don't care, you just can't be bothered by it, your feelings about your mom's situation has be the way you where raised, you probably have strong moral values, you probably go to church and the church says its wrong, your mom got side-tracked and is pleasing/satisfying her own sexual desires, which is selfish because she has a family, we have too many things to worry about in this world, we have to take care of ourselves first, your mom is doing just that, and you are too by not being part of the problem nor solution, but your mom has hurt you and she realizes she put you in this situation and that is why she is trying to include you in her new relationship, maybe in time you will accept her back into your life and maybe not, it's up to you.

i know one thing for sure though, we only have one REAL set of parents, and in my case, both my parents have already passed on, first my pops 6 years ago, then my mom 3 years ago, and i will never ever get to see them again, i miss them soooooooooo much, but that's my case.

hope this helps, good luck to you!!!

Answer 2

You seem to have trouble separating a person's sexual orientation and what goes on behind closed doors (I assume!) with all of the other attributes that make them human. People don't "choose" to be gay; some people may just take longer to realize that they are, as in the case of your mom. She didn't reject you, but maybe you felt that she did. You don't have to agree with someone's life choice to be tolerant of them. I think your issues have less to do with gay vs. straight than they do with the fact that your mother left you and your dad, for whatever reason. Until you and your mom are able to talk through this, you won' t have any peace of mind about it.