I want to have a huge but a nice wedding n a year when my husband comes back from Iraq ne ideas?

Answer 1

I want to have a wedding with Iraqian too, now he`s in Jordan. maybe we`ll celebrate together?=)

Answer 2

You might want to wait awhile before having this wedding. It is a hard transition from a war zone to back home. Please contact a support group for military wives and talk to some of the wives, they'll be able to tell you what homecoming is like. A wedding is about two people, not just the bride and he may not want a huge wedding, right after he gets home, it could be too stressful.

Answer 3

congrats!!! my bf is in Iraq as well and we are getting married in May but since he is coming home in Nov. I am going to all the places and getting prices that way when he comes home we can take a day and go check out everything so wed ont waste more time and run the risk of not being about to get a hall or church on the day we would like. It also keeps me busy so the day's go by faster.

Answer 4

check out www.theknot.com. It's a great website full of ideas.

Also listen to the military wives who have given you advise here, they've been through a husband coming home from a war zone, and it's totally different, and takes time to adjust. While I don't think it's selfish to have a large wedding in the midst of a war, you need to really think if that's what your husband would want as well.

Answer 5

If you're already married, why are you having a wedding? If you want honest advicse: that would kind of be bad manners, to have a re-run wedding. People will think you are trolling for gifts or vain or trying to get attention.

It would be much more appropriate to have a big 1st or 2nd anniversary dinner dance, not a tacky wedding re-enactment. The celebration will be just as joyful and you won't be breaking etiquette.

Answer 6

Start thinking about colors now and buy some of the decorations for the wedding now. Buy the stuff that doesn't matter how long you keep it and any items that doesn't have the names engraved and so forth. Cake topper, table clothes, little glass bowls that you can put either flowers or floating candles in for table decorations. That way all the money is not needed up front.

Answer 7

I he is in Iraq , don't plan any weddings at this time wait until he comes home and maybe he would like to help in the planing the wedding as well I think you should do that together. he has people as well as relatives that i'm sure he wants to invite which you may not even know yet.so i would wait . and when this happens congratulations .

Answer 8

First of all, use correct grammar in your questions.

Second, I would seriously wait until he is back. The worst case scenario is that you will plan this horribly wonderful wedding and suddenly he gets caught in the crossfire and doesn't come home. I would never want that to happen to anyone, however keep that in mind.

When he gets back, I would talk it over with him, and start planning then.

Answer 9

Plan a fun wedding that is as unique and special to you and your fiance,as possible, within your budget. A wedding takes one day. You and your spouse must live after all the bells and whistles are gone, the cake is stale and the guests have all gone home. Best wishes.

Answer 10

Remember what he just went through. give him some time before you force him to be around large groups of people. That can possibly cause too much anxiety. His guard will still be up for a while when he returns.....for obvious reasons.

Consider things he has seen and done. At a large wedding or party, people will try to get him to talk about and relive the horror he has experienced. Not because they want to, but their curiosity will trump their consideration.

Give him time to get used to being back first. Let him get used to relaxing when he goes out, and learn to trust the world again. Wait til he quits looking over his shoulder.

Any person alive will be affected by being where he has been. It's normal, and it hurts. But in time, they will heal.

Also, remember that while he was gone, he was probably hurting because a year of his life disappeared, and thaat he could not be there for you, and that he might want to take over everything to overcompensate from feeling powerless.

You should involve him in the wedding planning, and give him some power and decisions to make. You should also look at the pre-marital quiz on the www.drphil website. it's content will make you think of things you are oblivious to now.

Whatever you do, don't set him up to fail. Our government has already done that, and he was forced to participate. That hurts.

Guys are trained not to show their emotions, and to try to control them. It's unrealistic. Also impossible. They leak out in other ways, like through behaviors (alchoholism, domestic violence, cheating, etc). Be there for him (phone calls) and love him unconditionally.

Guys over there cannot "download" their thoughts and feelings to each other. It's understandable because they have to bond and trust each other with their lives. That doesn't mean that they don't need to. Be his soft place to fall, and place to download. Do not judge him or act like he is damaged in any way.

Don't expect too much of him when he gets back. even if he loves you, he will cheat on you with porn or other women in he feels like a disappointment to you. Don't expect him to make you happy, he can't. Only you can, and you need to so you can share that with him.

While he's there, tell him how you feel, a lot. Keep him posted with your life, and reinforce that you are saving a place for him. he might worry about losing you (as most of them do), but if he knows what's going on with you, he will worry less.

Guys over there worry about us here, because it's easier to deal with than what they see there, sometimes.

Good luck, have patience, allow time to heal and regroup, and take care!

Answer 11

yes, go to hobby lobby or somewhere like that n get those small fish bowls with pie tops (shaped) n tie ur colored ribbens around the neck of them, get ur own table clothes, a some faberic to tie around the seats ( use cheap sheets to cover the chairs),u can put whatever u want in the fish bowls maybe some tea light candles. u can use sheer fabric around the room as well to accent it along with those fake hanging coloured plants with flowers in it. makes it so pretty, i mean all this wont cost alot of money but it will still look so good..u dont have to pay alot to make it look like u did. so go look around at some of it n see what u can get, most fabric (at walmart ) u can get .89 cents a yard or so..let me know what u do.. would love to see pics. good luck n i hope ur man comes back safe.