I went through a very bad breakup 6 months ago and it has left me wary of future relationships with other guys. There are guys that are interested in me, but I shy away because I am afraid of getting hurt again. I say to myself, " Yeah, this will be sweet at first, but it will not end that way". I want to stay away for a while, but I know that I cannot hide from it forever. Sooner or later, I will have another boyfriend. But how do I let my gaurd down and stop expecting the worst?
2006-07-27 07:50:04 · 15 answers · asked by krayzbeautifu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The truth is, never let your guard down. I've been in your shoes before and it left me numb when it came to relationships. It took me years to realize that I had to regain a since of peace about talking to guys and knowing that they weren't all the same. We should never rush into anything. Just be yourself with guys who may approach you. Don't even let them think that you're interested in more than hanging out and being friends (even if you are interested and want more). Get to know the person as a friend and don't be afraid to ask about their past. It's also good to ask about their parents and how they were brought up. This will give you a sense of their values.
I don't know if you are religious or not, but the most important thing to know about a person is their religious beliefs and practices. If you are a person who believes in God, pray about everything and worry about nothing. You will find the way. I did.
2006-07-27 08:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by DD 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been through this. I think the most important thing to remember is that all guys are different & it isn't really fair to assume that the next releationship will be the same as your last. I would take it slow so you can really figure out how you are interacting with this person and try not to get too wrapped up in him so quickly. Your Mr. Right will come.
2006-07-27 07:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by metalicgirl69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With every relationship you take that chance. Nothing is for sure. Keep away from the type of man you were recently involved in - the out come will always be the same. Good Luck
2006-07-27 07:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax relax relax, your getting yourself all worked up over something that is not going to be in your control when that right guy comes along.... Keeping your guard up is going to prevent that from happening. Go slow with each relationship and when the right guy comes along and you will know when this happens your going to forget how badly this breakup was.
2006-07-27 07:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by srymybad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited a year to date and by then I was ready. But I was VERY PICKY who I dated and then I found my hubby and we're so happy. Just relax and it's okay if you don't want to date. Take a year off.
2006-07-27 07:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Good luck
2006-07-27 07:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just start out as friends and get to know the guy alittle better before actually dating him.......hope this helps.
2006-07-27 07:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by lonelynoh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I would like to know too.I feel the same way.
2006-07-27 07:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boat we are riding in is so similar that I really have nothing to say-except take your time!!!
2006-07-27 07:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me too i been through a very bad break up like last year .you know what email me
2006-07-27 07:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by cutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋