your fourth. you feel like ****. you thought you were done, you don't really want another child and of course you used protection because the doctor didn't have time to tie your tubes, you almost died with your 3rd c-section. all your co-workers are happy and excited for you. they give you a baby shower at work and present you with alot of gifts and money. you lose the baby three weeks later. it's very difficult to face anyone, you're out of work for weeks with only half your pay, do you keep the gifts and money or do you give them back, you go back to work only to find out they have taken up a collection for you, what do you do what do you say?
2006-07-27 07:49:37 · 8 answers · asked by vebyllucs 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
At this time you need to be taking care of yourself and your own physical and emotional health. That is all anyone would expect you to do, that is, anyone who truly cares about you. You can graciously say thank you to those who have helped you in any way, and decide what to do with the gifts once you are feeling better. As for the money, I think your friends would probably feel bad if you tried to give it back. Let them do this for you; in a situation like this we don't know how to help, and it helps them if they are able to help you, even in a small way.
2006-07-27 08:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by BECKY V 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh honey I'm so sorry. No you aren't expected to give the money or gifts back. How can you be expected to deal with that right now? Tell everyone you work with thank you for the collection. Use the money for medical bills or whatever else this tragedy is costing you. I would give thank you notes to all who have given if it is anonymous then just give the office one. Don't make a huge deal out of it just athoughtful card and make sure everyone knows you are grateful. They are more worried about you right know than proper etiquette. Maybe see if your hubby can get his fixed. Save yourself another heartache
2006-07-27 07:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry if this happen to you! once someone give you something then it's yours, i don't think they would want there gifts back? you tell them what happen and give them thank you cards for being so supportive, you might wanna talk to a dr. because you sound really depress about this and it's normal to feel that way, but i wish you well, take care of yourself
2006-07-27 07:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by ti'lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for what you went through. I would donate those baby things to a local teen mother program. There are so many women who get pregnant and have nothing.
2006-07-27 08:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the money you could really use it, and tell them you appreciate their gifts and everything and possiblly donate their gifts or find someone who is pregnant to give them too.
2006-07-27 07:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by rebel_sweetheart2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom had 4 children, My oldest brother, then a stillbirth a female, my next oldest brother, then me, who had hydrocephalus. ALL before SHE had BC problems with HER doctor, and my LITTLE brother came, ALMOST EXACTLY 10 years after me. 15 YEARS between the oldest and youngest. All life is special, with a soul. Think all your options through.
2006-07-27 07:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by thewordofgodisjesus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take time for you, thank your co-workers and friends and keep everything, those were gifts and i am sure that is the last thing on anyone's mind. i am sure they are more worried about you. hang in there, you'll figure it out.
2006-07-27 08:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would thank them for there generous gifts. maybe you could donate them to a local hostpital or maybe give them to a homeless shleter.
2006-07-27 07:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋