my bf and i want to have a baby and get married, however he is going into the air force after xmas..after about a year and a half he want me to live on base with him and have a baby...but at the same tme, we arent sure if we want to get married till after he gets out, because we want a a big wedding...so my question is...do you i have to be married to him for them to let me live on base with him?
2006-07-27 07:49:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Here's how it works.
He must have a dependent to qualify for on post housing. If you do not get married just yet, that will mean the baby can qualify, IF he is in his full custody. This can also be done by joint custody if you both share the full time custody.
If the baby is listed as a dependent, and you are not, you will not be authorized housing, while the other two will be. If you should move in with him without the authorization, he will be given 30 days to either get the authorization or to get out. Authorization can be had at the Housing SGM's office, and in most cases is granted for those situations.
The alternative is to have a wedding before hand, in which case you'll be given a Dependent ID and will be authorized access to all facilities on base, including on-post housing. Without the ID you will not have that access (PX, Commissary, gyms, etc). What my wife and I did was have a quickie wedding and we are planning a real ceremony with all of our family and friends.
It worked out for us and I'm sure they'll work out for you two too.
My suggestion though is to work out your home, regardless of your marital status before having the baby. But without a marraige certificate and/or a baby, you can't get on-post housing, he'll be considered a single servicemember with no dependents.
2006-07-27 10:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by elucase 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You can but how will you get on and off base. You will have no id card. My suggestion. Get married at the justice of peace. Have a wedding after he is out. My husband and I did the same thing. Waited to have a wedding. He is now in Hawaii. The military will not help move me there because we got married after he was in. Which I understand. We can't afford it. So you need to think is what if he gets stationed over seas. My husband and I have been seperated for over 3 years. It really sucks. Get married before he goes. So you two get bah and can live together. With no problems.
2006-07-27 17:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military on post housing is reserved for married couples with and without children. You can still have a big wedding, you can plan it all and have your guy take leave for a week or two for the wedding and honeymoon. your pictures will look great with your groom in his dress uniform. We have lived on and off post. usually if you live off post you are given additonal monies to help with the rent. I believe the military when it comes to the behavior
of they're soldiers is pretty moral. get married, apply for on post housing and then have the baby.
2006-07-27 15:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by kaylamay64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is single (not married) he will not be authorized on base houseing. He will live in the barracks. The only way you could live together when not married is to get authorized BAH (Basic Allowance for Houseing) and get a house or apartment together off base
2006-07-27 14:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by Brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will also have a heck of a time getting on and off post without a dependant ID card. The easiest way is to get married. He can also register you as a dependant if he can come up with an interesting enough story.
2006-07-27 15:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by bored_army_soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can, but his CO is likely to see a Soldier getting his girlfriend pregnant as feckless. A word to the wise...babies are not toys and cost alot. If you want a big wedding, wait. If you want a baby get married.
2006-07-27 15:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military personnel can only qualify for on post housing if they have dependants. If you have a baby, he has to get custody of the baby to move into on post housing - if it is available - and you cannot live with him. If you move in with him and he gets caught, he can be kicked out of housing for having unauthorized guests, regardless of you being the baby's mother. The housing is for him and the baby, not for him to have girls over. As a single soldier with no dependants, he will live in the barracks. If he wants to live out of the barracks, he will live off post at his own expense. The military will not allow personnel to take advantage of benefits for people not authorized those benefits. And they will prosecute him for fraud if he tries to manipulate the system to get them to let you live with him. If you want to live with him and want the goverment to pay for it, you marry him. If you don't want to marry him, you are gonna have to wait til you do, or pay for it out of pocket off post.
2006-07-27 19:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by sweets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. you can live off base though if hes high enough rank but he wont get the bah. but you do have to be married to actually live on base.
2006-07-27 14:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by jbarker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be married to be allowed to live on base housing. You have to be listed as one of his dependants.
2006-07-27 19:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by nurse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be married to live on base, sounds real stupid to have children without getting married.
2006-07-27 15:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by The Pooh-Stick Kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋