I am babysitting a 5 year old little girl who is upset about her mommy leaving. She gets out of control when she is upset and starts hitting her twin brother and I. She also throws toys and kicks walls. I need a solution to the problem now. As I type she is in her room kicking walls! Her baby brother is down for a nap and I hope she dosn't wake him!
2006-07-27 07:47:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
lock her in her room and let her cry she want attention from her behavior and it doesnt matter what kind take away her previlages and take her away from the situation if you do that every time it will get better and better dont expect her to just change rite away
2006-07-27 07:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by partylitebyterra 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
take her aside, away from every one else, hold her very tight, not to squish her or anything like that, get at her level, look her in the eye and talk to her. Tell her she cannot do this because it's not proving anything except that she can be just as much of a bay as her lkittle brother. Tell her that if she does it any more and throws a fit, that you will make sure she doesn't have fun when your there, that she will stay with you the whole time and never leave your side, and when her mom gets home you will have a big talk with her mom about how shes been acting and that you know her mom wont be happy about this and that you can almost be sure she will be punished even more when her mom gets hom
2006-07-27 07:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Christine!!!♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 5 you should be able to talk to her. So, if I understand your question correctly, there are 3 kids?? The twins and a baby brother. You did not discuss the male twin, so I can assume that his attitude is OK. If this is the case, it sounds like the girl has a behavioral problem and mom need to get a handle on this now, before she really hurts someone. Medicine is just one option, she need to go to the Dr. and get checked out - he can rule out medical problems vs emotional. But since this is a daily problem, take the time to talk to the mom today!
2006-07-27 08:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time she has a "spell", don't take her away or wait until it is a more convenient time, even if you are in the middle of a huge crowd. Tell her, "No hitting, screaming, fighting, biting, etc. And spank 2 or 3 times with a firm hand! Dont worry what the other people around you might think, or about hurting the child! If it does hurt her, well then maybe she will learn a lesson! Just dont abuse her!
2016-03-27 02:06:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 2 y/o used to get upset when I'd leave him at preschool, as did my oldest when he was the same age. Not to mention the countless other kids I babysat thru out the years ..... I found that if I let him wave to me when I leave and just reassure him that I'm coming back he/they have done fine.
Even my friends kids would be upset if mom & dad were leaving for a little while, as long as they (the kids) got to say good-bye to mom & dad they were fine. May have some whimpers here and there, but no fits.
Also try to find something to distract her to redirect her attention.
good luck!
2006-07-27 08:06:16 · answer #5 · answered by Monica W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the time she's 5 she should know better... Is it a daily thing? If so they will get used to it. Firmly comfort her, but let her know you are not going to let it continue. Set up a spot where she can cry, tell her if she is going to cry she will have to sit there. You may have to keep taking her back, but eventually she'll either do it, or quit crying.
Also, put the chair in sight of the others and do something fun that she will want to join in on!
2006-07-27 08:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by isellpc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is six years old and I've tried lots of ways of punishing him,but the thing he hates the most is being sent in the corner.If he cries or tries to get out it's ten more minutes in the corner.Trust me when they end up spending half an hour or so in the corner they will definitely learn to behave.They do value there freedom to roam and play.
2006-07-27 10:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you respond to her bad behavior you encourage her. Tell her in a FIRM voice that she can't act that way while she is with you. ask her to read you a book...ask her to dust..get her busy in an activity that will take her attention away from her momma leaving. You can also have the mom start her out in her favorite activity before she leaves, her attention will be on her activity, not the mom leaving...CONTROL and 5 year old don't mix..GUIDANCE and PATIENCE and CONSISTANCY
2006-07-27 07:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by lovelee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um time out then you need to tell her mom what she is doing and take her to therapy. She has a behavioral problem or is just so spoiled that her mom allows her to act like that.
2006-07-27 08:04:16 · answer #9 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen Nanny 911. Just set up a naughty step, and make sure to change the tone of your voice to be serious or soft (depending). Don't bribe her though!!! I did that to my cousin, and I never heard the end of it!!!
2006-07-27 07:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by newsblews361 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Empathize with her! "I can tell you really miss your mom! You're really upset that she gone." Empathize a lot.
Ask her what she thinks will help her feel better. Suggest making an "I Miss You" card.
If she hurts you or her brother, tell her "We can't be with you if you are going to hurt us. When you're ready to be gentle, we will play with you."
2006-07-27 08:06:19 · answer #11 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋