me and my husband use to be so in love,now most of the time were to tired to have sex or even cuddle. we have to small children. And we both work,what should we do?
2006-07-27 07:45:53 · 25 answers · asked by yazy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should set aside one day a week, get a sitter, and have a date night where its just the two of you and reconnect.
2006-07-27 07:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by seth22rr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Refocus your attention on your marriage. Sometimes when couples have children, the family begins to revolve around the kids. You need to shift the center of the family back to you and your husband. Don't worry, if you focus more attention on your marriage, your children will be secure and happy.
First of all, set aside some time to spend alone as a couple. My husband and I go on a "date" one night a week (and have done so for 20 years). It doesn't have to an expensive date--sometimes we have just walked around the mall and got a cup of coffee--but it does have to be without your kids. If you can't afford a babysitter, try to arrange to trade some babysitting time with a friend.
Second of all, there is always time to cuddle and have sex. You are just using that time for something else right now. Try getting to bed a little earlier. Sex is more important than TV and more important than sleep. So have sex, even if it means you need to find time to sneak a short nap during the day.
Finally, think back to what it was you did for each other back in the beginning when you were first in love, and do some of those things. Be creative about ways to show your husband that you love him. Be affectionate. Always greet each other with eye contact and a kiss when he (or you) first come through the door.
You really have to care for and nurture your marriage by investing a lot of time and energy into it, or it will curl up and die.
2006-07-27 15:10:34 · answer #2 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just HAVE to make time for each other. Make it a priority. Get a baby sitter once in awhile and go out, dance, have dinner, a few drinks, movie, whatever, just spend time together, just the two of you. Also maybe put the kids to bed a bit early so you can have some alone time each night. It CAN be done. I have been married 10 years and have a 6 and 8 year old. Our love life never fizzled, we never let it!
2006-07-27 14:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find an aphrodisiac that both you and your husband will enjoy..or try when he's not home make a romantic dinner, then run rose pedals into your bathroom. Light some candles play some sexy music wear a very revealing nighty, have a nice warm bath ready the two of you can enjoy your night together. just make sure the kids are outta the house
2006-07-27 14:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by OnE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make time for each other and have a romantic night. It's harder when you have kids. And the sex drives usually diminish because of the level of comfort with each other and feeling that you don't need to be as affectionate as you were in the beginning. Depends per couple actually, but that's usually. Take the kids to g-mas for a wkend or something...figure something out...and have an entire day and/or night to your husband doing whatever the *** you guys want.
2006-07-27 14:48:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a babysitter and "make time" for yourselves! Sounds like you both really need a break from the babies. You should set up a one day a week policy for the two of you. It may be difficult at first but it's worth the effort. Good luck!
2006-07-27 14:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by BRITCOURT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish I had a solid answer, but I have slipped into the same rut. Recently I told hubby how much it bothered me that we are in this place and he has seemed more interested in getting back on track. So I guess discuss it with him and both of you put forth effort to bing back some fun in your relationship. Try to go some places alone without the kids sometimes, even if it's a cheap date to Taco Bell and a show.
2006-07-27 14:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by friend4u726 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make time for each other. Even small amounts of time. Get a babysitter, leave the dishes and go out. Even if only for a walk. Nothing is more then the marriage.
2006-07-27 14:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by clair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date night, pick a date maybe every other fri night get a babysitter or better yet send the kids to granmas so you can go back home after dinner for a little tlc towards each other. It sounds queer but just make a date with your husband.
2006-07-27 14:48:27 · answer #9 · answered by mrsdamico22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happens alot when kids and work become a huge part of your life. Arrange for a babysitter at another house. enjoy a quiet evening at home work on making time for each other... relationships take alot of work, the same amount of work it takes to raise 2 kids and work jobs, not enough hours in the day for all of that but that is when you have to make the time...........
2006-07-27 14:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by srymybad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋