Did you always do the BEST YOU COULD?
parents say this all the time – mine did!
What is ‘the best they could’ and does this mean they NEVER did less than their best or should be excused for doing what they had to do such as beating their kids or spouse? I don’t know about you but I did my best SOMETIMES and my not-so-best other times. I had many choices but didn’t always pick good ones. I’d like to be excused for doing my best but some of it was inexcusable!
If you did the best you could, I’d really like to hear all about your ‘best’ and just how perfect you were.
2006-07-27 07:43:43 · 11 answers · asked by jimrich 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mom said "we did the very best that we knew how" and i honor the notion that they acted on their best current knowledge. what bothered me was that she wouldn't admit that they probably made mistakes and could possibly have done better. of course her statements were defensive because i had the unspeakable nerve (at 50) to guestion us 3 kid's upbringing.
glad that most if not all of you are open and honest about your 'best' - congratulations!
2006-07-27 13:12:19 · update #1
No, We all make mistakes. Both of My Parents have said the exact same thing. My Dad was abusive, and We just started communicating again, and He tells Me the same thing. Call Me goofy but being punched, kicked, slapped, cussed at, belittled, and choked, in no way constitutes Ones best.
Parents try to forget the bad, and just remember the best memories. I want to remember to best, but need to also remember My mistakes, learn from them, and ask forgiveness for those times. They were nothing like My Childhood, but I made mistakes, and I have already asked for forgiveness. To say that Someone did the best They could, would imply a near perfect Childhood, and no one is perfect.
Good question/statement, I really hope Everyone takes the time to think it through, and strive to do better, and recognize Our faults................And then make amends.
God Bless
2006-07-27 08:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think they mean they did what they thought was best, we are all human and don't do things right and they aren't saying they did everything right, just everything they knew what to do at the time.
Kids don't come with instructions and even though I believe there should be a license for becoming a parent, it ain't an easy job. Doing the best you could and being perfect are two seperate issues, no one is perfect.
2006-07-27 14:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The nice thing about being human is that we're expected to make mistakes. The thing is, when you make a choice, did you make the right choice for you and did you attempt to do your best with making the decision and then performing whatever task required of the decision you made.
Frankly, I'd hate to have always made the right choices or always done my best when I made a decision. Kinda makes you wonder what life is about since you learn from your mistakes (hopefully).
2006-07-27 14:50:33 · answer #3 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one does their best All the time. Humans have a tendency to slack off once in a while. Some more than others. I know that I have choosen to do Just Enough to get by. And other times I go all out on things. Parents never do their best All the time. Sure they may have tried once in a while but they are human and slack off just like you might.
2006-07-27 14:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by Keebler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guilty because most times i never strived for the best-not very often and when i did-most of the time i always thought someone else was better. But there have been times i'm pleased with myself-like when I record a song on my kaoake and when i listen to it played back i hit most of the notes-or it doesn't sound so bad.
2006-07-27 14:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by RACHAEL R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one is perfect, we all make mistakes, and some just look for other things or plp to blame it on rather than admitting the real reason. but seems like you r one to admit the truth......just always put forth your best, all anyone can do! At least u know u tried....and if u fail, just try harder nxt time. I'm interested to see if anyone is perfect! LOL!
But I did try my best to make my marriage work, I did everything I was ordered to do by my ex....it still didn't work!
2006-07-27 14:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by dazed.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try ed to do my best but lets face it parents are human also!! we all make mistakes and don't always do as we should-the only thing that any one can do is move on and realize that you can not change the past---there are many things to consider--things that you may not even know about!!!!
2006-07-27 14:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What they usually mean is that they don't expect us to be perfect. They just want us to try our best! :)
2006-07-27 14:47:09 · answer #8 · answered by MADRA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat wld be life it ethin wld be dne at its best....ya we can put in our best in sme places and cant in sme places...i like the way i m not perfect but its gud just being like this..thats how i enjoy life......i put in my best in things that intrest me......and i think thats they way life shld be... i dnt want to be a perfect example for sme1 but just wanna make a place in ppls heart.......
2006-07-27 14:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by sweetangel32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn`t really matter......past is past.Not worth to ponder it.
2006-07-27 14:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jackson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋