I've been with my boyfriend for a couple months and he hasn't said I love you yet. I feel it and want to say it but I dont want to scare him off or have him not feel the same way. Should I just say it or wait for him to say it first?
2006-07-27 07:42:27 · 19 answers · asked by gazinmcbane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you feel that you love them is when you say that you love them.
2006-07-27 07:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by Phoenix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to say "I love You?" What do you feel to make you "think" you love him? For one thing, If you really loved him, it would not matter if he loved you back. It is not about "his" feelings. And if you think that loving him will scare him off, then I think you are mixing "love" up with something else. The fact that he hasn't said it yet in a couple of months, shows integrity and maturity on his part. It is possible to fall in love that quickly, but it is highly unlikely. Anybody can and will say they love you to get what they want. But love truly can only be experienced. Love is forever. You can say it to anyone until you are blue in the face, but if you don't fill that way unconditionally, completely, eternally, surreal, then it is only a mirage. Don't throw "love" around like it is any old feeling. It cheapens, confuses, and takes away the true meaning and you will NEVER recognize true love when you actually see it.
Bottom line - when will you know to say I Love You?....... when you KNOW that no matter what happens after you say it, you will still feel the same way for that person. If that person choses to walk away, or slap you in the face, or even kill you for loving them, you would still feel love for that person. Hopefully you will know that person enough (after all you LOVE them) to know that they are not this kind of a person (not unless you LOVE that kind of a person - hey, to each it's own). It ain't rocket science people.
2006-07-27 15:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by Such A Fn Lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say it.. guys often wait for a woman to say it first even if they feel it.. don't listen to these girls.. if you say it and he is scared off, then he wasn't a good choice anyway.. so just tell him and see what he says.. if he feels the same he will be relieved, because if so he is probably going through the same thing you are.. tell him to be honest.. if you can not pick a player out of a crowd then sorry but the stick out like neon signs to me.. maybe cause i am a guy.. but i try to keep my female friends away from losers.. they never believe till it is too late though..
2006-07-27 14:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by valiantw2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel that way, say it! Chances are he feels the same way or at the worst, you'll know where you stand. The worse feeling in the world is discovering that you have wasted time on someone who doesn't love you.
2006-07-27 14:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by minnahota 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember having a convo about saying it. We felt one another out to see where we stood and by the end f the convo we both where on the same page. One thing you don't want to do is say it and have him reciprocate it but with no meaning.
2006-07-27 14:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till he says it first. U don't wanna feel like a dumba** if he don't feel da same way. Good Luck
2006-07-27 14:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by Traviesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go 4 a romantic movie and take a candle light dinner.when see off then say him i love you and lets take a new style say it like guys(seat on you knees and give him a red rose.)
im sure it will work.do it wat im saying otherwise you might loose him coz mostly guys think that if propose then they might loose there friendship even and times go on and they get new one.some time they think that should he propose or not?
Any way go ahead and just do it.this indian LOVE~GURU(love teacher) never fail.
And when it work then dont 4get my treat.
Best of luck
bye.
2006-07-27 15:04:25 · answer #7 · answered by hemu_ma2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i love U too baby
lol
dsl
dont wait long
coz me too i'm waiting 4 smone to say it
but i'm a bit timid i cant say
try it if u really love him
bye
reply me if it works
2006-07-27 14:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by shehzaad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should wait until he says it 2 u 1st
2006-07-27 14:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by naashomwheeler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since your a girl just wait..guys might just be playin ya..they're good at that.. if you decide to say it..they might just say it because you did, and not even mean it..i've experienced it before
2006-07-27 14:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋