My BF always says he is tierd and we hardley ever have sex. He hardley ever hugs me, kisses me or holds my hand anymore. HE IS NOT CHEATING ON ME... 100% for sure. But the little things mean the most and hardley ever does he do them. I am starting to think there is something wrong with me.
2006-07-27 07:33:55 · 33 answers · asked by kristig79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably is telling the truth when he says he's tired. He might be under a lot of stress with work or with his friends. Stress affects people differently, some people especially women need to cry and get it all out of their system by talking to a friend, others (myself included) get very withdrawn and don't like to have that closeness with other people. Stress and anger can take a lot of energy from a person and they don't feel like doing anything. Talk to him figure out why he's tired and that should help rest your fears about his feelings for you. Also the length of time you guys have been going out can also be a factor, maybe you two have been going out for long enough that he doesn't feel he has to show as much affection for you because he's sure that you already know he cares. See what you can do to find out why he's tired and go from there.
2006-07-27 07:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mistress Hazard 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad, I think a lot of guys are like that. My husband is that way too and I'm married to the guy. I figured out that it's because once you get passed "the begining"they tend to get comfortabe and don't feel they have to anymore.You can look at it in bad way or you can look at it in a positive way, meaning, he feels like you guys are passes that stage into a more mature stage where the guy doesn't always have to be all over the girl to show her that he loves her. You should mention it to him or you should start making the move and be the one to grab his hand at the movies or lean in for a kiss. Just remember that "actions speek louder than words" and there is nothing wrong with feeling like an Old Married Couple (Sometimes) Good Luck!
2006-07-27 07:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you but the best thing to do is communicate to him EXACTLY how you feel. Communication is very important and you two aren't married, don't put your self worth upon someone else. Maybe you need time to develop yourself and your personality before you try to be in such a serious relationship.
As a side note, abstinence is best! That way you don't have spiritual ties to someone not investing their whole life with you. = )
2006-07-27 07:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by classy sass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spice things up a bit. Or you hug him n be affectionate with him dont be so needy...i get more pleasure in giving affection then wanting it. And maybe he'll come around. He's not cheating, he's tired..but tell him you feel a little neglected and that you need attention at times..but dont be needy they hate that. Then they start cheating!
2006-07-27 07:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Caro*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noone can make you feel anything without your permission but actions sure can move you. I too would feel hurt and less desirable but he may not see that you feel this way or understand why. If you are sure that he is not cheating, then he probably is telling the truth. If you need more from him you will have to use your words.
2006-07-27 07:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by one_derful_day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you go up to him and hold him.? Men retreat into their little caves when there is a problem in their life. But, if you ask what's wrong they will say nothing. Like a child you have to work it out of them a little at a time. Give him time if you have it.
2006-07-27 07:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by lovelee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh! Men gets tired of women who are just clingy. Give him a breathing space. My husband says I love you all the time, and I don't. But, iIt doesn't mean I don't love him. I love him very much. Saying "I love you" all the time is not my cup of tea. Just like your boyfriend who doesn't like to show the physical side of it.
Since you are 100% sure that he is not cheating, did you ever asked him if he is feeling well? There might be something wrong with him physically.
2006-07-27 07:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's hardly not 'hardely'... And yes, that would and did make me feel undesirable when my ex-husband started to act as such. It's tough. And it's very true for me, the little things count... Some men, most men, just don't understand that. They're selfish.. Have you told him that this is how you feel? Let me him know it's bothersome for you. Best wishes.
2006-07-27 07:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by ridersinthesky11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey its not you and your great the way you are but there could be something wrong in the relationship and if thats how u feel then yall really need to talk and figure out what the problim is.
Good luck
2006-07-27 07:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by poeticsoul127 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its may be your relationship in general. talk to him and try to find out what is going on. you may have gotten into that comfort zone that makes him think that stuff isnt important anymore (most men are idiots at this stuff) anyway talk to him and find out if there is anything wrong with the relationship, too much time together etc.
2006-07-27 07:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by Bistro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋