The rape, the violence... I want to move on... I feel like I am in a pit with quick sand... the more I fight, the faster I sink... I thought I found me a stable rock to hold on from and it turns out to be it was nothing but a trap that helped me sink deeper... I know I am talking figuatevly, I hope you understand and can give me some advice...
2006-07-27 07:23:36 · 10 answers · asked by Magy G 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Thank you all so very much for all the advice... I need someone who I can talk with, someone serious, don't take this as a joke... I am sorry... feel so down...
2006-07-29 09:54:48 · update #1
THANK YOUALL SO VERY MUCH FOR YOUR CONCERN, ADVICE AND STORIES OF LIFE EXPERIENCE...THEY HAVE ALL HELPED SO MUCH...GOD BLESS YOU ALL AND THANKS FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART... :)
2006-08-01 10:52:22 · update #2
Hold still, stop sinking, and let time lick your wounds.
I know I'm speaking figurativly, but I hope you understand.
2006-07-27 07:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by stranger2ooo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a long time. I was raped 7 years ago when I was 17 and I am still not over it but I have learned how to stop being a victim and instead be a survivor. You need to let go of the guilt and process the pain and anger. Things will get better and you will begin to heal. Givew you mind, body and soul the time it needs to recover. You also need to begin talking to someone about what you experienced and all of the emotions that come with. If you have no one you are comfortable speaking with in person, you can always call the RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) at 1-800-656-HOPE and speak with a qualified sexual trauma counselor. You can also check out www.RAINN.org for additional resources.
On a side note, I have personally found the music of Tori Amos to be very healing and cathartic. If you are unfamiliar with her music, I would recommend looking into her album 'Little Earthquakes,' specifically the song "Me and a Gun."
2006-07-27 14:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by SillyJilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im truly sorry this has happened to you. You need counselling. Counselling will help you understand that you are not to blame, that rape is an act of violence and control, not about sex. It will also allow you to develope a normal healthy outlook about sex in the future, and allow you to separate what happened to you from the sex act. That is critical for your happiness.
good luck, and god bless you.
2006-07-27 14:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-27 15:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raped myself, I guess it affected me differently. I don't know how to get past it. Except perhaps accept that you were raped. And tell yourself that I refuse to allow it to prevent me from enjoying being a woman or enjoying sex with a loving partner. I refuse to keep looking over my shoulder. looking for your rapist face in the crowd, it will not give you that power over me.
Perhaps you could find a rape support board either online or in person to help to accept what has happened and or join a self defense class to keep in shape.
2006-07-27 14:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a therapist or a support group for women who've been through similar ordeals. Consider taking a self-defense class, so you aren't so vulnerable. Be kind to yourself. It takes time to get over something like this.
2006-07-27 16:58:18 · answer #6 · answered by SL_SF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a good psychotherapist and if necessary get prescribed antidepressiva. Don't deal with another man before you have healed from your past. Wish you all the best and send you a beary hug.
2006-07-27 14:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try rainn.org and coolnurse.com. 1-800-656-hope deals with this. www.nononsenseselfdefense.com. is cool. it's not your fault. you are special. do not let them get into your mind. God will repay your enemies. He will protect you. do not worry your life will change for the better. there is no need to harbor pain cuz you were innocent.
2006-07-27 17:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry this has happened to you. Thought maybe this could help.
2006-07-28 04:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk on
2006-07-27 14:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by trafficer21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋