Can you GROW to love someone your in a relationship with?

Question

When you're in a relationship, after awhile, can you grow to love that person in time as the relationship progresses? do you stay with a person just so you have someone to come home too?

Answer 1

With time you can grow to love someone, I mean, that's basically how relationships are, you grow to love someone, it doesn't just start through thin air.

But if you're staying with someone just to have someone to come home to then I don't really know what to say. There is the possibility that you will end up loving him, but then there's the big chance of it not happening.

I would maybe give it some more time, but if it keeps on dragging like the way it is then it's best to just end it..

And if you want someone to come home to then you should get a pet, they're really good at healing emotions and calming people down.

Answer 2

You can grow to love someone you are in a relationship with. But I don't think you should stay with a person you don't love just so you have someone there. If you ever do meet someone you are really interested in, that's going to make it reaslly hard if your already in a relationship. And if you tell that new special someone "Well, I'm in a relationship, but it doesn't mean anything", or something similar, trust me, they are going to think you are such a scumbag. If you don't love that person, move out before you do grow to love that person. Don't be so lazy you just leave things alone and then are never quite satisfied. You deserve better and so does the person you are using.

Answer 3

whatever the circumstances, if you don't make an active effort to love the person, eventually you'll find a reason not to love them. Love is oftentimes as much a decision as a feeling. You can grow to love someone, if you want to. That's very important. And a relationship that succeeds is not an opportunity to just take, it requires giving as well. So you shouldn't stay in a relationship just to have someone to come home to, you should stay to be there for your partner, and to be the person he comes home to.

Answer 4

Well every relationship is different. When oyu first get into a relationship it is because you are comfortable with that person, not neccessarily because you love them. Over time yes I beleive you can grow to love someone. As for your last question absolutely NOT you could come home to a Cat if you wanted to but to live with someone and have them around as a pet basically is wrong. You could just as easily get a roomate. Good Luck

Answer 5

I honestly don't think that you can grow to love someone. If it isn't there, it isn't there. You know what they say, you can lead a heart to love but you can't make it fall. So many times in my own life I had hoped that I would grow to love someone, because we were so compatible, but it just never happened. If you stay together just for the sake of coming home to someone, you will never be happy. Life is too short. You deserve to be head over heels in love. Take it from me, if it's not there, it's not there.

Answer 6

i do believe u can grow to love someone..but it's hard work and takes TIME. i think it is important to be w/ someone because u already love them, or at least see much potential for the future. don't be w/ someone JUST so u have someone to come home to; eventually u will just resent them and treat them badly. a relationship is hard work....and to work hard for someone u don't love "yet" is EXTREMELy hard.... there's too much pressure. but if u already love them, it is worth every penny, every exertion, all the bad, because the good outweighs everything. u need to feel safe, secure, happy, healthy and positive; u also need to be able to make that person feel the same way. if there's no love, it's 100 times harder to appreciate that person, or do it for them. love is patient, kind, understanding, and forgiving... how can u forgive someone if u don't love them? hoping love just comes later out of comfortability is like waiting for rain even tho u have access to a hose/sprinkler.. u have to actively look for it and water and care for your partner, not just hope the rain will come down and take care of everything w/o any work.

Answer 7

My boyfriend should be the poster child for such a thing!!!! When we first started seeing each other he didn't want a relationship but just wanted to have fun with me. He continued this charade for about a year and a half. I was patient with him and did everything I could to seduce him. It worked. We've been together now for 4 years and he acts more lovey dovey now then I did back then. Patience is key. Water the seed and watch it grow!!!

Answer 8

It's a possiblity, but I've never bought into that. If you haven't started feeling the love I would say within 6 months, then it's time to move on. Unless you are content being in the relationship while waiting for continuing to wait until you do love them.

Answer 9

I think you can't make yourself love someone. I think that you just don't wanna be alone so hold on to what you have until you find what you're looking for. The bad part about the hole thing it the other person may actually be in love with you. That's why its really important to be honest.

Answer 10

Absolutely not, don't stay with someone just to have someone to come home to. But yes you can fall in love with someone over time, but it will be a family kind of love, not that tinggly want to be with this person kind of tthing. It's better to keep yourself single so you can find the one you don'twant to live without kind of love!