should i stay with my boyfriend ?

Question

I've been living with him for 2 1/2 years. We have recently moved to improve out relationship. The thing is, I don't trust him! He has cheated before now when ever his mate’s sister is around I think he's cheating again. I feel very isolated as I don't know anyone where we have moved. I don't find his sexually attractive anymore and just unhappy. We turn separate ways in bed. Help?

Answer 1

sounds like you should never have moved with him leave now while there are no children involved your to young to be unhappy and turning separate ways in bed whats with that hes obsuly not interested or hed be all over you try to talk to him about it and if he just dosnt seem to care leave you have nothing to loose and you may be missing mr right while stuck with this looser

Answer 2

I think you know the answer to this one - you're just looking for someone to validate it for you! Yes, I think you should leave him. If I didn't trust my man, I would have to leave him, no matter how much I loved him. Trust is just as important as love in a relationship. He has cheated on you before, and yet you stayed, giving him the message that it's ok to cheat on you. You turn separate ways in bed? Seems he doesn't want to be in bed with you any more than you do with him. Talk to him-ask him to tell you honestly if he's seeing someone else. Tell him you're not happy any more with him and why. Maybe you could move back to where you moved from, and be with your friends again? Personally, that's what I would do, and sooner rather than later. Why drag out your unhappiness any longer? Good luck to you, whatever you decide!

Answer 3

U can be unhappy but still love him. U need to communicate with him more and let him know how U feel about his mates sister, who obviously makes u uncomfortable. Get his response and go from there. From my own experience if he has cheated before and U for gave him..not that u would ever forget but U have to learn to trust him. From the reaction he will give U, U will know just what to do because he should feel some kind of remorse when he knows he has already done wrong and doesn't want U to feel that way again. If it seems as if he is too cocky with his answer..ie(look she is just my mates sister and u can forget about me not ever being around her) Let his *** go because he doesn't care what U think and is not trying to keep U happy. He was the one who messed Up and now needs to work hard to make U trust him again. In any relationship there is Love,communication, trust and loyalty. U love to communcate with him to trust him to be loyal to him and he needs to earn it. Good Luck!

Answer 4

If you want any chance of repairing this relationship, you should do a few things to improve yourself. People don't like to hear this, but if they are concerned about their relationship, it's generally their fault. I'm not saying it was right of him to cheat on you before, but I have no doubt he would have done so if you had known how to keep his interest strong and unwavering.

Instead of dwelling on the unknown,(in other words, if he's being unfaithful or not,) I would focus more on what you could do to get his interest back. But because you don't find him sexually attractive anymore, this will be very hard.

Well, you can't make yourself attracted to him again, that's his job. So if he no longer does the things that made you happy, consider leaving him.

Answer 5

trust is a very important part of a relationship .. and i think that you should think about going to a friends or to a family members and leave this boyfriend.. and if he has cheated once he is able to do it again.and you are unhappy and i would not continue to stay there anymore..if you have money get your own place..2 and half years if getting into real time so be sure of your decision before you make the move..and do you love him..if you still love him then you might try to talk to him and see if you can work out your problems...i do not know what else to suggest...but once you have lost trust it is hard to get it back ..i lost trust in my ex-husbands and i never got it back..

Answer 6

Sorry but the answer is DUMP him. He cheated once and will do again. Not all guys are like that tho. I'd take a break after u get shot of him and just enjoy being yourself, will help improve ur confindence, spend time with mates, and generally have fun. then when u feel ready thats the time to look for a guy again.

Answer 7

if u don't trust him, get out of that relationship. it's not going Anywhere, and if he doesn't make u feel safe, secure, and happy, then that is not the kind of guy you want to marry. i would suggest communicating w/ him first, see if he's willing to work things out w/ you, and do whatever it takes to show you that he is committed. if he is unable to convince you, whether because u still don't trust him, or cuz he is untrustworthy, it is NOT going to work. and never go somewhere and leave all ur friends/family behind for ur bf, if you don't have a stable, healthy relationship in the first place. cuz once he leaves u, or u leave him, u feel that u have NOTHING. that sucks..for you!!! try ur best to work things out, but if it's not good enough, just accept that you are a Wonderful person and do not deserve to be treated like crap. it is not healthy to have a relationship w/ someone who makes u feel sad, and lonely. i think u would be happier if u were single, but around tons of friends and family who love you No matter what, and would never "cheat" or lie on you behind ur back. having a relationship has its perks, but when it's a happy, healthy one, it should Compliment ur life, not Consume it until there's nothing else left. create a healthy, balanced life for urself (work on ur self confidence, work on ur knowledge, work on ur career, ability to take care of urself and others, responsibility, maintain good relationships w/ friends and family), and find someone who can work and grow WITH you, not bring you down.

Answer 8

cheating is a serious issue, trust me i know. but its good that you were able to forgive him and move on from the issue even though you still have suspicions, you need to talk to him about it. it might be hard, but just tell him how youre feeling and be open with him. if you dont think things are going right, be straight up and tell him, you know what i dont think things are going as well as they should be and frankly im still a little nervous about your cheating. reassure him you are not saying that he is cheating for sure, but it could be a suspicion. im not going to lie, he might get mad because you bring that up, but then thats all the reason to end it. if he doesnt want to make things better and realize that he did screw up before which gives you the right to have these thoughts then hes not worth it. but on the other hand if he tells you that its not what you think it is and hes sorry for the way things have been going and does try to make it up to you and make you happy then stay. in the end you have to follow your heart, if your heart says i cant see myself leaving him i want to be here then thats what you have to do, but if your having second thoughts after you talk to him, that might be a sign.

Answer 9

I think if you were truthful to yourself, you'd know the answer. If you turn away in bed and he's already cheated.... personally I would call it a day and move on. You deserve someone that will dedicate his love and life to you and no one else.... once a cheater, always a cheater (in my own honest opinion) good luck whatever you decide. You may just need some time apart to find out whether you need him, want him, or love him.

Answer 10

Well I think you should get out of the relationship while you can because he thinks that you are ok with the fact that he cheated once and he thinks he can do it again. He thinks even if he does it again you'll always forgive him and stay... So I suggest you get out of there before he breaks your heart again... Find someone who is going to appreciate you for you and not treat you like a dog... GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR DECISION....