If a girl told you she had a personality disorder on the first date, would you seek a second? Read deatils.?

Question

My freinds set me up with a shy, quiet girl. Our date went pretty good. There's some chemistry. She seems nice, intelligent, funny and she liked me enough to come out of her shell. She told me that she had been diagnosed with Schizoid Personality Disorder, which is basically an extreme preference for solitude and a lack of emotional expression. She also told me a whole lot of other personal things about her life that I wouldn't repeat here. But she said she has 0 freinds and is a virgin. Her life is in order. She's in college, holds a job and is still willing to meet people. I am attracted to her physically and find her personality interesting. But I'm not sure if I should pursue something with her. She's kinda strange and I've had some bad expereinces with off-center girls. A second date is right there is I want it. Should I go out with her again?

Answer 1

When someone tells you who they are, believe them. If her admission did not scare you off, go for it !

Answer 2

Well, if you aren't quite sure, just take it slow for a while. You will probably experience problems in the relationship, including communication problems. But then you may end up liking her enough to be willing to deal with those issues. On the plus side, she is evidently an honest person and seems to trust you with those personal things.

Answer 3

It sounds like a wild ride if you pursue a serious relationship with possibly no easy way out when things crash and burn. Why not be friends with her instead since you find her interesting and leave it at that. You can still go out and not be physical.

I have had very attractive female friends I would go out with to a movie, clubs, etc. and then would meet very attractive girls to date while out with them.

Also by keeping the relationship as "friends only" you take the pressure off her and yourself. This may build her confidence and get her out of her shell.