how come men dont tell women how they really feel about them. my boyfriend and i have been dating for three years, yes i know he loves me, he has even brought up marriage and says he is sure that i am the one he wants to marry. however, i really dont know how the boy feels, when we get into an intense conversation he says your my best friend, then yayaya..he's so wishy washy about his feelings at time. how come he wont be more expressive?
2006-07-27 06:01:59 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
guys are really afraid to express their feelings
i dont know why but i am too
and because i was afraid to express my feelings i lost the love of my life so what you need to do is sit down with your boyfriend and tell them your feelings about him not expressing his feelings with you fully and let him know this. i am sure he will open up more.
2006-07-27 06:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
men are not emotional like women. They more physical, want to be successful, we woman are the nurturing kind. He need to be open with you. You got to have an emotional intimacy.
If I were you I were get the following you might could get it a library but if not get it a bookstore or have them ordering for you if it not in stock. These books has helped me. You will learned a lot about men, women,etc.
1.Secrets About Men Every Woman
Should Know
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2. Are You The One for Me?
Knowing Who’s Right &
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The #1 New York Times Bestseller
The author name is Barbara De Angelis (She write other books, I see why it a bestseller, She great.
A website marriagetoday.org Even though you not marry now. You still could learn from this. I'm not marry and I'm preparing myself for my future husband. This is Christian based.
I also want to say once you read these books or if he see you read these books and he don;t want you to read it. That is a red flag. A good man don't mind you learning and reading. While I'm on the subject he may not be the right person for you. Read those books and you will get a better understanding. They don't cost a lot but is worth it. If you want a good relationship with a man.
2006-07-27 06:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if he has told you, but you are looking for a deeper emotional answer. A man is a problem fixer, and he fixes things the quickest and easiest way possible, so by giving you the answer, I am sure you are the one, is the best answer he has, It is all summed up in those words. If you are both on the same page and he is open to some real communication, then both of you should read the book, Men are from Mars Women are from Venus, you will both understand each other a whole lot better.
2006-07-27 06:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by jansson_karl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me turn the question around:
How come women never understand plain English?:
"He is sure I am the one he wants to marry"
"He has even brought up marriage"
"I know he loves me"
"He says I am his best friend"
You call THAT wishy washy??? You call THAT not expressive?
I would say you are not listening to him.
2006-07-27 06:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is in your question. You called him the "boy"! That about sums it up. A man knows what he is feeling, and will tell you while staring into your eyes and holding you so you know that it is true. A boy does not know squat. He does however know that almost telling you will make you stick around and wait for it! He will let this go on as long as it suits his needs. The saddest part is; some boys never become men! Most of you women know exactly what I mean!!
2006-07-27 06:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by Brian J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That men do not express their feelings is an evolutionary affect. Expressing emotion equates with showing weakness. Imagine a man living thousands of years ago. He's built a big wall around his home to protect his family. And a stranger approaches. Would you want your man to greet the stranger with, 'Hey look over here were our wall has a weak spot!'. No, you wouldn't pick this guy to be the father of your children. So it became instinctive in men, not to show weakness, and hence emotion. Showing emotion would be like showing were the weakness is in his personal wall. 'Look here, this is where I can be hurt. It takes time and a great deal of trust, before a man can overcome those instincts.
2006-07-27 06:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I am not a guy but I have felt the same way and I realized that my husband wasn't good at expressing how he felt about me but compared to his other relationships his actions r different with me so actions mean a lot.
Just talk to him about his exs and c how things r different with u plus if he gives u his last anything then ur the one. Guys r very selfish but when they really care they will loosen up.
Me n my husband just got married in May and we have been together for 8yrs n hes still learning how to open up. It is a long wonderful journey
2006-07-27 06:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by leenabootie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we men have very complex minds , and you being a female no matter how inteligent you get in this life will still not be on equal terms to to be able to understand what we are thinking, so because of this we dont talk too much to members of the opposite sex. those yayaya;s you mention .guys understand. you unfortunitly never can. that is how come.
2006-07-27 06:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you telling me instead of him. You guys apparently don't have communication down yet, and shouldn't decide to marry yet. If you're having problems like this, you may find that you haven't discussed money - like your philosophy on loans, how much money you owe, and so forth. Or your philosophy on spanking children. Or your philosopy on going to church. Or your philosophy on sex. Or your philosophy on marriage itself.
There are so many serious conversation that must be COMPLETED before you are ready to get married.
By the way, my wife and I really never had trouble discussing things, probably because we felt the same way on most issues. It was part of the reason we got married.
Bottom line, if you can't communicate, you can't stay married. Buy a relationship communication book and read it.
The best book I ever read on the subject:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060959622/sr=8-1/qid=1154020521/ref=sr_1_1/102-2473276-2752960?ie=UTF8
2006-07-27 06:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by BigPappa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is dependent on how he was brought up. If there wasn't alot of emoting going on between his parents, then expressing himself will probably be difficult and uncomfortable.
Some people even believe that expressing your innermost feelings is a sign of weakness and relinquishes too much power to the other person.
2006-07-27 06:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you are sure he is sincere
Men think while Women feel
us blokes look at life in terms of black an white, logical like. ladies are better equipped to express themselves verbally
men an women are different, we each have qualities that the other does not have - work together on this
2006-07-27 06:09:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋