ok well i went out with this guy whose one year older than me and i caught him cheating on me. well he begged me for a month to forgive him and i told him that i would give him one last chance. does he really deserve that one chance? i still love him but i'm not sure that i can really trust him anymore...
2006-07-27 06:00:26 · 35 answers · asked by amber 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Answer from inside.............do u love him truely.........if yes than he always deserve and if he too love u in same way he will definately will not loose this.
2006-07-27 06:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by Rohit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was in college, I had a boyfriend who cheated on me. I loved him so very much though, and after much begging and chasing after me, I finally decided to give him another chance. But then about a year later, I caught him cheating on me with his whore of a neighbor. Cheat on me once, shame on you. Cheat on me twice, shame on me. I dumped him right there on the spot and never took him back. Does this sound somewhat familiar? It should...it's going to be what your life will be like if you choose to carry on with someone you can't trust. You'll always be wondering if he's going to do it again, or if he's not with you at the moment, is he doing it now? Trust is one of the cornerstones of any solid relationship and without it, you've got nothing. Good luck.
2006-07-27 06:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sistergirl, I have been there and done that. I kissed a lot of frogs before I found my handsome prince, and I can tell you for sure:
Forgive him? Yes, definitely. Give him another chance to betray you and break your heart? No way!
Move on. Cut the ties to him. Find someone who will be loyal to you and treat you with respect. Let him find another girl, and maybe he'll to be true to her, knowing he lost a good thing with you.
If you take him back, you are teaching him that you don't really believe you deserve his loyalty and respect. You DESERVE BETTER. And trust me when I tell you, he WILL cheat again, because you taught him he could. And at that point, it's just as much your fault as his. "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
Good luck to you, sistergirl! Be strong and do the right thing.
2006-07-27 06:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by godsgirl5263 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive him if he seems real. If he truly is sorry then take him back. The question is can you forgive and forget and put your trust back into this guy. If it is always going to be at the back of your mind then it isn't worth giving him a second chance. Because it will eat away at you and you will be second guessing yourself, and him on everything.
2006-07-27 06:07:52 · answer #4 · answered by amber b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre heart and brain is two different things and it operates different. If you really love him then you can love him as a friend and nothing else. If you cant trust him....trust is a big thing in a relationship and if he has done his deed to hurt you in that category, then no he doesnt deserve you. Guys will always be cheaters, it doesnt matter how old they are, its just that you as a person has to take it as it comes. Tempation is always out there, so really, guys shouldnt be in relationships, they should be locked up and thrown away. lol Good Luck.
2006-07-27 06:06:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt give him another chance
he should of realized the first time how great he had it with you
there had to be reason why he cheated and that means that its gonan happen again
dont believe all of his begging hes just tryin to get u wrapped around his finger and he wants to feel like he has control over you
LET HIM GO! he doesnt deserve another chance
2006-07-27 06:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to be honest with u
if u are willing to forigve and forget than do it
most men never get the job done right the first time
now if u cant give him 100% percent of yourself
than dont
because it will stay in the back of your head for a long time
then u wont be able to have a healthy relationship
good luck
follow ur heart and mind
2006-07-27 06:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter either way. if he didnt cheat first, you would have eventually. you have no reason to judge him wrong.
you're a typical woman. you get tossed to the side by some knuckhead but you swear you "love" him, and then wonder why the relationship failed a few years later.
it failed because you wanted it to fail, and you didnt look for a good guy.
typical.
2006-07-27 06:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant love without trust, and if you dont trust him.... you're probably just in lust with him. i wouldnt give him another chance, once a cheat always a cheat. he'll think he can win you around next time in my opinion.
2006-07-27 06:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by niccyford 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no man deserves 2 chances make him feel bad he did that 2 u its called getting even use it sometimes girl
2006-07-27 06:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by Loving_This_Time_Around 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Everyone deserves a second chance." I heard that once before. Just warn him that his second chance will not be as generous as his first.
Or you can tell him he should have thought of this before he did what he did, and tough luck. Your call.
2006-07-27 06:03:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋