guys tell me im cute and fine all the time. now dont get me wrong...im not full of myself or a snob...i just wanna know why i cant find a guy that likes me and doesnt wanna get in my pants? Yes i do have standards but...well..i dont know...just pleasehelp me!
2006-07-27 05:48:45 · 26 answers · asked by bonyblack 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Two things:
First of all I think that women sometimes get so used getting indecent proposals that they will build strong barriers against all men. Then when a good guy comes along he gets hit with so much scrutiny and judgement that he walks away thinking that you are a total grouch. Its a shame that jerks like that make it difficult for the nice guys like us to approach a woman without being prejudged or thought to have some alterior motive.
Secondly, I think that its because you are probably overlooking and brushing off the guys who are really worth being your friend.
It is women like you who cause nice guys to finish last because when we show you that we like you for the person that you are we end up being alone on Friday night while you go out with some jerk. And then after you get tired of him, you come back to us for emotional support. And then when we eventually get to the point where we want to have sex with you and/or develop a meaningful relationship, we get that famous line, "I really like you but only as a friend" or "I like you but in a SPECIAL way."
So again we are left spending the following Friday night alone saying, "Gee, thanks for nothing!" and I have learned that it does not pay to be a nice guy.
2006-07-27 06:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by Joe K 6 · 21⤊ 5⤋
Well now a days most guys want in your pants and thats all I think it is great that you are not like that it shows you have respect for yourself. I was the same way but there are guys out there that are willing to take the time and get to know you for you not whats in your pants, cause I had all but given up and one walked into my life and we have been married for nearly 8 yrs now. Don't give up just cause you have respect for your self dosen't mean there is anything wrong with you I wish more young people would realizethis, and I am only 29 so I am not some old fogey liveing in the past.
Review you standards are they realistic? If so then don't change yourself for someone else to like you just stop looking there is someone out there for you and hes probably right in front of you but when your looking to hard you don't see it. Just relax have fun and live life and it(love) will find you when it's ready. And most of all keep respecting yourself!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-27 12:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by life as we know it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you first meet a person, what are you interested in? Their looks. So you can't really discriminate against that. I am sure all the guys you are talking about are immature jerks and that is all they want. When you start dating a guy, take your time with him. Don't rush into anything. If he is a good person, he will wait til your ready. If not, you do not need him and tell him "don't let the door hit him in the a** on the way out."
2006-07-27 12:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely there is nothing wrong with you. I am sure you are cute. The problem rests with the men and society. Men are getting away with WAY too much these days and we are allowing them to. Put your foot down and keep your clothes on! If all women would do this, we would have fewer problems with single parenthood, children growing up without child support and parental support from fathers, more self-esteem and so much more.
Have fun in your young years. Stop dating for awhile and have fun. Go to college, research a career, learn to tango, take ballet, learn a new language. Romance is not all it's cracked up to be. Just give it a rest and say no to boyfriends for awhile.
And if you do find one down the road, make him work for you, buy you things, ask you to marry him if you love him. Demand something from him. He will apppreciate you more for it.
2006-07-27 12:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Bloo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold on a second: How old are you? If you are
in your teens or early twenties, you are probably
interested in guys in that same age group.
All of these guys are being flooded with hormones -
you know, similar to the hormones that give you PMS,
etc.
And be thankfull they are, because if they weren't
so interested in getting into your pants, numerically
the species wouldn't survive.
If you are less driven by hormones, then perhaps
you are in a better position to see beyond
someone's immediate sexual gratification to what
they might be like as a person.
However, don't expect these poor souls drowning
in testosterone to have the same ideals as you.
2006-07-27 12:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. I had the same problem.I told myself that i was giving up on dating. You just have'nt found the right guy. When the right guy comes along thats not going to be the only thing on his mind. What ever you do do not give into these guys because they are losers and in the end you will feel even worse. The right guy will come. When you least expect he will come.
2006-07-27 13:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
*More dating* Don't even waste your time with the ones that give you that feeling. If you're attractive any guy will have those thoughts come through his mind. But the type of guy you're looking for will only do what makes you comfortable. So until your ready, he as well wont be ready. He wouldn't want to risk loosing the you he enjoys most for a feeling that would only be temporary. He'll make sure you feel worth every bit that you are to him, EVERYTHING.
2006-07-27 12:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by sexy_lop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't that anything is wrong with you it is the guys that are approaching you. There are guys out there that are looking for way more than just getting in some girls pants but they are rare. Just keeping looking cause there is a guy out there wondering where you are.
2006-07-27 12:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are freaks but u have got to keep ur standards, and keep them set high, when a guy u like, tries to get in ur pants jsut tell him no, he'll respect u more knowing that u dont let any guy get what he wants if u let him get "it" now then yeah he might be happy about it right now till he thinks about it for a while and he will see ur not who he thought u was, keep ur pants on and seak out a guy who respects u for it
2006-07-27 12:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same prob so i hear ya! I think it has to do with being too needy. See i think once a guy realizes that they can get a girl no prob then they dont want her anymore cus the mystery and chase is over.
2006-07-27 12:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by cutie pie! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all guys will want to get down your pants,you say your ok looking,thats normale,you just accept that ,dont give in to the guy and try getting to know him.if he dosnt want down your pants he is gay or married or have higher standards
2006-07-27 12:54:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋