I'm a stay at home mom of 3 beautiful boys a 4 year old and twins 9 months old. My husband works 24/7 and when hes not at work he is on call. I dont have any family near by. I yell at my 4 year old all the time Im afriad he is going to hurt his brothers. and to top it off my doctor put me on a deit. Any moms out there know what Im going thought? please help
2006-07-27 05:44:22 · 13 answers · asked by sweet niece 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Hire a babysitter for the evening and go out with your friends. If you're worried about the 4 year old hurting the others, try calmly explaining to him that they are little and that if he is not careful he could hurt them by accident. You could also enroll the 4 year old in a half-day preschool that would help him prepare for school and give you some relief also.
2006-07-27 05:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never had twins, but I do have two children 6 and almost 5. My husband was/is never home and I didn't have any family nearby...I cried almost every day because I felt so alone and at the end of the day guilty because I felt like I wasn't the best person I could be to myself and my kids. My point is...I never let someone (babysitter, nanny, daycare...) come into our lives and if even for an hour watch my kids so I could take a breather. Even just go for a walk. I can't say that it hurt my children, but later you might regret not taking some time for yourself. You may not listen now because I know I never did, but I do wish I would have. Join some kids groups in your area, take the kids to a park and let them play, enroll them in a toddler class to keep them busy for an hour or so (it will give you and your kids something to look forward to for the day). How about swim classes? Any mom groups in your area? Do you attend church? Maybe there are some teenagers from church that could watch your children.
Hope I was a little helpful. Good luck.
2006-07-27 06:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by toobusy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello I have a 7 year old and twin 5 year old and luckily I haven't had to do the baby part alone but now I have no family near by so remember when you are most angry walk away for a few minutes count to ten or twenty and take 3 deep breathes than think about the situation and remind yourself he is only four and ask the your doctor about zoloft it helped me earlier on for frustration and not just an answer for deression.
2006-07-27 09:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by doeraeluv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend finding a baby sitter or day-care or preschool right away. Your 4 year old needs a level of some attention that you may not be able to provide for him right now and that's OK. It would do you and him some good to have a few hours apart a week. Your twins deserve a little mommy time of their own but make sure you get some time to yourself. That is very important for your mental state. You could go to a gym that has a child care in it and just get in an hour of you time in the pool or in arobics or on the treadmill. That way you're killing two birds with one stone. Good luck!
2006-07-27 05:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by L.A. in F.W. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You are really having a tough time. Just take a deep breath right now and take time to just stay still and contemplate on your next move. Maybe you can arrange something with your husband that way you can unload some of your burden. Have a friend maybe help you babysit. Talk to other new moms, I'm sure they have some advice for you. I have a friend who is in the same condition as you are now. The best I can do for her is listen and take her out once in a while.
2006-07-27 05:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop yelling. Take a deeeeep breath. Give your 4 year old something fun to do. Lie your babies on a blanket and watch them play. Take them all for a walk, maybe they'll get tired and all 4 of you can nap.
go to a park and meet other parents. Good luck. I know it's difficult. Just stay as calm as possible and remember, when you yell they shut down, just like if someone yelled at you. I use to whisper to my kids and they would have to be quiet to listen.
2006-07-27 05:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also a mother of three boys 5, 3, and 16 months. You need to take time for yourself, it may seem impossible at times but it is extremely important for both you and your children.
The best time would be after they are in bed. Establishing a strong daily routine will also provide pockets of potential MoM time. Do you have any close friends in your area? If you do ask for help!!!
Good Luck and best wishes
2006-07-27 05:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by danielle_vyas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a mom, but I sympathize with what you're going through. Please just remember that your children don't want to stress you out, or make you mad. Try to think about what you would want to have done to you if you were in their shoes, and always try to do what's best for them. Just a few deep breaths during their nap time, and you'll remember that they're only children, not the demon seed hell-spawn they appear to be right now!
2006-07-27 05:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by illustrat_ed_designs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 06:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have a neice or nephew or yonger cousin, help. Pay them to help for half a day each day before school starts. And when school starts You can join a gym they have day cares, and you can go work of some of that stress.Mommy of three, AJ 3, Zack 22months,Carrie 8months.
2006-07-27 05:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by Tara S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋