Men/Husbands only Do you?

Question

Men do you help around the house?cause my?
husband wont take out trash wash a dish ,cook or pick up after his self.He said that is my job.I also work full time and take care of kids.Im sick of this! It's been like this for 6 years.

He also works full time to.Why Q posted in religion.Seek Godly advice.But you dont have to be Godly to be wise.

Answer 1

I help around the house though I often fail to do so as well, but I don't expect anyone else to do it. If I make a mess, I eventually clean it up...yeah, it might take a minute, but clening up MY mess is MY job...after all no one else made it. Saying that it's your job to clean up after him is just an excuse he's using in order to maintain his laziness, especially since YOU are the one working a full time job AND taking care of the kids.

Naturally, some men are going to be less conscientious about helping out than others, but it's totally and shamelessly unfair for ANYONE (man or woman) to push responsibilities off on you, saying that it's YOUR job.

Answer 2

Sounds like a sexist, to me. Tell him to get a clue and start helping, unless he's afraid it will "sissyfy" him. My ego isn't too fragile to help with the laundry, dishes, trash or anything else around the house. Hell, I consider taking out the trash and picking up after myself just part of being a responsible man. If he continues down this path, chances are you're gonna get fed up with it and leave to find a man whose ego is intact and is mature. A man's willingness to help around the house is a sure sign of he regards his wife. Bank on it.

Answer 3

Cook just for you and the kids, don't wash his clothes, stop giving him 'benefits'. Inform him that you are not his personal slave.

One suggestion, Tell him that one day next week its his turn to cook, remind him a few times as well as that day, if he doesn't cook, take the kids out to mcdonalds, leave him behind.

Another suggestion, 'hurt' your back, so that you have to rest in bed for a weekend, so that he has to take care of the house for those few days.

Answer 4

Well when I use to work my husband would help me with the house work. Now that I am not working he tell the that’s my job and I under stand. My mother says that men are like pets. Depends how you trained him at the beginning of relationship. If you got him use you picking after him your screwed. Just tell him that he not getting any if he doesn't help you.

Answer 5

I would tell you to stop doing it all.. Don't wash his cloths. Don't set a place at the table for his meals. When he questions you tell him that it's not you job to take care a an adult man who is capable of taking care of himself.. My wife is a housewife. I still see to my own personal needs. True I let her take care of the house but I do my washing and at least twice a week I do dinner.

Answer 6

Hi Ii'm Garry,

He is one of types that only cares for himself.

I don't know what I can avdvice you here but take it step by step.
Give him hints of how much you love him that and that you would do anthing for him including picking up after him, tell him I show you all this love and in return you make no effort to help me, have a one on one conversation when he is in his best mood. tell him it would mean alot to me hubby if you would like help alittle around the house as I will be the better part of you and help you also. we should compelet each other as we are married and we should be one.. talk to him as if you're talking to a child. give him incentives if he would make more of an effort to help around the house..
I don't want to break you guys up but between you and I a man that loves his wife will clean up after himself he would also make her every now and again with breakfast in bed with a rose.

The defnition of love goes beyond breakfast in bed and picking up after yourself..

Once again talk to him as you are talking to a child and give him an insentive if he would make more of an effort to help you since you do 100% of the work including working full time.
I hope you don't have to pay the bills too..

Look some men are just like that and with al due respect it's your fault for letting him get away with it.

Just like a child you should have brought him up in a better way instead of ignoring his bad habbits.

Feel free to message me [e-mail] regarding this issue you are having or any other, I'm always happy to leand a helping hand

Kindly & Sincerely simply wishing you the best of luck,

Garry

Answer 7

you poor thing.just between you and me,your husband is an uncaring, thoughtless ,arrogant person who really needs a good slap.i'm amazed you lasted 6 years.i mean really you work and look after the kids.sounds too me like your in a 70-30 relationship,(70 to your side)instead of a 50-50.guys like him annoy the crap out of me.maybe he needs an ultimatum,help out or take a hike.most guys aren't like that,unless they don't care anymore cause they are having an affair.i hope not for your sake.good luck with him, it sounds like you need it.

Answer 8

that is pretty crappy. It should be a partnership. I know what you mean though I do most of the work at my home as well. She often says things like " I was going to do it" or " I forgot". Just put you foot down and be firm. If you both work all day you she divide te duties at home.

Answer 9

Yeah, I do the cooking, some of the wash, all the grocery shopping and take care of the bills. We don't divide things up by gender. I enjoy cooking, my wife doesn't.

Answer 10

my wife and I have an understanding. She has major back pain, so I do all of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and taking care of the kids, and she tries to make it thru each day. This is not a joke, and I will have her confirm it for you.