ok this guy really really likes me and he askes me to go places and i cant refuse cuz most of the time, they are places i really want to go to (but not with him) he is relling everyone that we are going out but we arent. hes a real sweet guy and i dont know how to let him down gently ....
what should i do????
2006-07-27 05:15:44 · 41 answers · asked by Miki G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
jus tell him straight up....but first u have to stop going places with him...u ahve to stop leading him on b4 its too late..i went through the same thing....ur going to have to tell him.....cuz u dont want him to fall for u...you know?
2006-07-27 05:19:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him that u guys need to talk. And tell him just how u feel. I am not trying to hurt u or anything like that. But I am sorry that I don't have the same feelings that u have for me. I wish that I did since u are a nice guy. An girl would be lucky to have u for a boyfriends. But I just think of u as a friend. And I don't want to lose that friendship that we have. But I will understand if u don't want to be friends with me right now either. Just remember that I am here for u no matter what happen. Something like that. I hope that this will help u out.
2006-07-27 05:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he is a great guy, but u want to be friends. although he may be a wonderful boyfriend for someone else, for you it's just not that way. don't go out w/ him anymore because the more "nice" u are to him, the more he's just gonna keep liking you. don't be mean, but let him know by NOT going out w/ him, that u don't want to spend that much time w/ him.. next time he asks, say ur busy, or u have plans w/ friends already, and ur sorry but thanks for asking. i know u feel bad saying "no" to him, and probably think, oh if we're friends we can still hang out..but if he likes u that much, it won't go away, esp if u still spend time w/ him. tell him nicely that u guys are not dating, and you're sorry but it's just not that way w/ u guys. even if it hurts his feelings, it would hurt even more if he felt "used" that u were just going places w/ him and then "dumping" him. remember, nice but firm. u don't owe him anything cuz he likes u, just a respectful "no".
one of my best guy friends (now acquaintance..can't be too close anymore :T) told me he liked me after 1 1/2 years!! i know him so well that i could NEVER like him like that... he's a great guy, but not my style. so i just kept telling him that i think he'd be a great bf, but we're just such close friends i didn't wanna ruin it. i also told him that if anything would've happened, we both wouldn't have waited til now. if i had liked him, i would've said something, and if he liked me he Should've said something. so it's just i had so much time to think of him as a "friend" that the dating thing just wouldn't work, and that i think he has great qualities for someone else. remember, don't spend too much time w/ opposite sex if ur not interested..most likely than not one or the other is going to be interested...good luck!
2006-07-27 05:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you've got to be aggressive, you can't let him spread lies about you and even if he is nice so what think about yourself! There are so many other hotter men in the world and this isn't true love believe me!! I've been through this, the guy did the same to me and he acted like he already had his way with me or something he was a jerk so I dumped him, do the same and think about yourself!!! He's nothing but trouble, dump him, lay him down flat!! You'll feel much better trust me, it should turn out good. you'll be fine. ciao!
2006-07-27 05:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by rebeandphantom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well basically just tell him look I love all these places your taking and yea i'm having a good time, but I would rather us as friends, I mean you seem to be a really nice guy but me and you would be better as just friends, and after that if he still keeps tking you place then be like look I wanna go hang out with my friends(sounds mean but it's not) and if he's a good friend he'll understand and not get mad.
2006-07-27 05:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by Charissa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you guys are just friends nothing more...being honest with someones feeling is always your safest bet. Put the shoe on the other foot...How would you feel ? Just let him know and be careful of his feeling too...he sounds like a great guy and we all need friends.especially the good kind.
2006-07-27 05:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by Rubens Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW.. you need to tell him before he gets mroe attached believe me it will hurt him less now than later... Just call him over to your house and tell him you need to talk. tell him he is a great guy but that you are not looking for a boyfriend right now that you want to be friends.. that you still want to hang out with him but for right now as friends and that when you are ready to take the next step YOU will let him know.
2006-07-27 05:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First STOP Taking Advantage of him!!!
Next time he asks you to go out....Tell Him "I haven't been completely honest with you, I've been having a very good time with you but I think I'm giving the wrong impression that we are a couple.....And I'm not ready for that....I took it as us hanging out as good friends...And I'm sorry if I mislead you" And then let HIM Speak......Good Luck
2006-07-27 05:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by Mary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 06:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that you are sorry but you don't see him as more than a friend but his friendship means so much to you. Right now you are using him. If you keep going this way, it might mess him up. Just tell him and be honest but be as nice as you can.
2006-07-27 05:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by nothingis_sound 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me before...except a little different. the guy who was crushin on me thought i asked him out, but i didn't (long story) so i had to just come straight up to his face and tell him it was a big misunderstanding. tell him u wanna stay friends and that ur really sorry. he'll probably understtand. that's what i did and it worked for me. good luck
2006-07-27 05:21:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋