I proposed to my ex but then after a month, she said she wasn't ready for it...However, she isn't giving the ring back...why???
2006-07-27 05:14:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Here's the general rule: if you cheat or you break it off, she keeps the ring. If she cheats or she breaks it off, you get the ring. As the ring was given with the intent of a marriage and she has decided not to honor that intent, she should give you the ring back. You would not have given her the ring without the intent of marriage. If she won't give it back, take her to small claims court in your city. Good luck.
2006-07-27 08:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by stseukn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are still together then I wouldn't worry too much about it but if she decided that she doesn't want to be with you anymore then the right then for her to do would be return the ring. Think back to how she told you that she wasn't ready. Did she make it appear as though she wouldn't be ready anytime soon or did she make it seem like she just needed a little more time. Give her props for being honest and not going through with something that she wasn't ready for. The worst mistake either of you could make would be to get married before one of you was ready. I am sure you will have a serious talk about the future sometime soon. Maybe you could let her know that when she lets you know she is ready that you would like to propose to her properly and if she would mind giving it back to you so you would have it when the time comes. Try not to take it too personally. She really did you a big favor by letting you know she wasn't ready.
2006-07-27 12:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find out if she wants to marry you or not. talk to her openly. and find out what she's thinking. she may still love you and want to get married, but doesn't want to rush things.
however, if she wants to break the relationship, but wants to keep the ring... that's a different story. You need to talk to a lawyer about what the state law states about getting the ring back.
The following from wikipedia may also be useful:
A woman who accepts an engagement ring, and then does not marry the man but keeps the ring, is considered grasping and dishonest in some cases, although an alternative argument is that the ring was a gift to which the woman is entitled; because an engagement is also a period for evaluating one's commitment to the relationship, it is not uncommon for either the man or the woman to break off the engagement.
Tradition generally holds that if the betrothal fails because the man pursues other women or himself breaks off the engagement, the woman is not obliged to return the ring. Legally, this condition can be subject to either a modified or a strict fault rule. Under the former, the fiancé can demand the return of the ring unless he breaks the engagement. Under the latter, the fiancé is entitled to the return unless their actions caused the breakup of the relationship, the same as the traditional approach. However, a no-fault rule is being advanced in some jurisdictions, under which the fiancé is always entitled to the return of the ring.
The ring only becomes the property of the woman when marriage occurs. An unconditional gift approach is another possibility, wherein the ring is always treated as a gift, to be kept by the fiancée whether or not the relationship progresses to marriage
2006-07-27 12:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by ChitChatBrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she breaks off the engagement and ends the relationship, then she SHOULD give the ring back. (It's as if the ring were a written contract of intentions.) Although, she may also view it as a gift and feels that as such she should be able to keep it. This is a tricky situation. She would definately be entitled to it, regardless, if YOU were the one to break things off. You could either ask for/demand it back or just let her keep it and cut your losses.
Good luck!
2006-07-27 12:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women keep their rings, even if my sister gave her's back. She didn't want to mess up the set. People told her she was stupid, but she wanted to do the right thing!
2006-07-27 12:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lorla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she still loves you and doesn't want to let you go completely. That or it's a diamond ring and she doesn't want to let a diamond go. Or maybe she thinks she's allowed/you want her to keep it. If you want it back maybe just ask her for it, be honest. Tell her you gave it to her as a commitment and now that you two aren't together and aren't making a commitment you'd like it back.
2006-07-27 12:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by shandra587 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear of a gold digger. Ask for the ring. She has no right to keep it.
2006-07-27 13:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she broke off the engagement then she should give it back because she decided she didn't want to get married.
If you called it off it would be a different story..
But she might want the memories just because. I don't know. I'm just sorry this happened to you.
2006-07-27 12:55:22 · answer #8 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not right. Not at all.
If you broke up with her...you're supposed to let her keep it.
Because it was a gift. But she's supposed to give it back if she's not ready.
2006-07-27 15:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by Unbreakable 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing i can sya about that is just let her take her time and you will know,and if she dont want to gave you the ring back take her to court
2006-07-27 12:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋