My nephew is almost 2 years old and will not go to his mother. She is a GREAT parent and spends a lot of time with him, but he cries all the time unless he is with me. How can we redirect him? I have not gone atound him for weeks and he is unhappy until I come to see him.
2006-07-27 05:02:44 · 13 answers · asked by KITTY 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
he loves you and thinks you are great..it;s not that he doesn't love his mom he just likes it when you come to visit..My son loves my sister the same way she has to see him everyday...He willl follow her home go in and not knock. I really don't think you can redirect a 2 yr old. They are usually head strong and set in their ways... Maybe you could set up a special time for you to see him 1-2 times a week that way he knows when to expect you and has comething to look forward too.
2006-07-27 05:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ohh i also remember this . a few years ago i was the daycare provider for 4 brothers of mine cause there wives had to work also, so it was a good thing to have family provide care anyways a few diierent nephsand one of my neice did the same thing yes its probably hard for the parent but it will pass and especially if its family it not the worst thing that could happen and yes it will eventually stop, my neice never wanted to go home with her mother at the end of the day she would cry and say she didnt want to go so some times she would just sleep over we are still close to this day she is now turning 9 on sunday
2006-07-27 05:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your newphew loves you that much, don't purposely stay away. Make sure when you are with him you try to inforce your role and their mothers role upon him, like ask him to ask his mother when you plan to take him or do something when him. Put her in the role of authority. My neice called me mom and her other aunt mom when she was 2. She always wanted to stay with someone instead of staying home. She is four now and anytime I go over there, or anyone else for that matter, she askes to stay the night. She now identifies her mom and me as auntie. She just loves to go with other people. It is OK for you to have a close relationship with him. Things will work themselves out as he gets older. Nothing more important than family.
2006-07-27 06:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by shakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he really sees you as his mother but just a nice person who he loves. I'm sure if he hurt himself, he'd want his real mother to comfort him. Many tots find someone new to cling to at this stage but now, deep down, who is their mother.
So, don't stop visiting him and simply enjoy the time you spend together, reassuring his mother that she is the focal point in her son's life and this is just a phase. In another couple of months, he'll no doubt no longer cling to you as he starts discovering the world around him for himself.
2006-07-27 07:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by starchilde5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the child has bonded with you more than his own mother. And how good of a parent is she really there are signs something is not right look into it.
2006-07-27 05:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well most kids love attention and when kids don't see someone for a long time they often want to spend more time with that person. I have a niece and she comes to me often than she does with her mom and grandmother.
2006-07-27 05:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Loving*Steph♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, every child have a favorite person, maybe you're his favorite person. I don't think there is nothing you can do because he is still young just keep on giving him love he will be ok when is getting older.
2006-07-27 05:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by Niselove25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should see yourself as a good friend to him you are his best friend my nephew is always happy to see my sons who are 12 and 16 years older than him. he has had no dad around but liked their dad when younger
2006-07-27 05:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by Sam's 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he's older, it will be better. but when you go visit him don't act like a motherly figure, just spend time with your sis, and don't spend as much time with him.
2006-07-27 05:07:31 · answer #9 · answered by ♫.liar.♫ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be mean to him at that age they are happy to be around people my daughter did the same thing but she grew out of it if he see you allot children tend to get attached but just remember to be patient with them and give them the love their looking for they will grow out of it.
2006-07-27 05:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by mario c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋