I'm friends with the guy, but not good friends. We used to work together and we're still in the same fantasy football league together and we meet for lunch once a month or so.
2006-07-27 04:55:36 · 26 answers · asked by JR 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would say at least $10 but not more than $50.
2006-07-27 04:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by Carlover29 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It depends on your ability. Generally without knowing the person, I think whereever you are comfortable between $50 and $150 is fair. I just got married last month and I can tell you at the minimum a card with only well wishes is very nice to receive. To the other persons calculation based on meal, you can't count that as a staple amount. Our meals were $70 a person, not all of our guests could afford that, let alone double that amount, and we can't expect them to all be able to pay for our wedding, after all we chose to have them join us in our celebration and did not invite them for gifts, but it depends on their ability and other responsibilities..Sometimes they are already paying so much to attend the wedding. I.e. car, hotel, gas, possible airline tickets, outfits, their own food while visiting during the wedding. If you don't go I would suggest a little more up in the earlier range, since that is easing up on some of your expense. But it depends on your ability too and people having a wedding hsould expect that not everyone can offer the same gifts or size of gifts, you can also check if they are registered somewhere, by callling a colleague, usually that information is included in bridal shower stuff, so if you know someone that went there you can ask them. also try Macy's online registry, you can also check if they have a website at the knot.com or weddingchannel.com and that will give you registry info. It is best if you get a gift to send it to the house (via the registry, so the couple doesn't have to keep track of it at the wedding). you can contact me for other suggestions if you'd like.
2006-07-27 11:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by tharedhead ((debajo del ombú)) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if you are bringing anyone to the reception. If you are and it is a backyard thing, $30 is good, if you are going to a good place with a buffet and a date $40-50, but if you are going to a country club or fancy place, you are going to cough up $60-75, unless you go alone...or just send $25-40 in a card and miss the recetion, you hardly know him anyway.
I think Miss Manners will tell you $50-100, depending on if you take a date, but let's face it, if you work for a living that's gas for a week...
It isn't calculated by how much they spent on your dinner(s)...that is their gift to you for sharing their joy, you are not obligated to give that amount in return.
2006-07-27 12:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by auntb629 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give enough to cover the cost of your meal and if you are bringing a guest, then their meal too. If you still meet this person once a month, then I would give a little more--say an extra $50-$75.
2006-07-27 11:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by Penguin Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you are going to the dinner/reception, you should cover the cost of your meal. If you are bringing a guest, it should cover both meals, and then add extra as the "gift". I just got married in June, the price of the meal per person was 23.00$. So if two people were coming together, they should give like 50$ to cover the meal, and anything over that would be considered their "gift". It also depends on who it is to you, where the reception is, etc..
2006-07-27 11:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by sonotech02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a total MYTH that you should try to "cover the cost of your plate" or anything like that when you decide the gift.
The amount of a monetary gift, or the amount you spend on a physical gift, is determined ONLY by your financial ability and your affection for the couple. End of story.
2006-07-27 16:46:18 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a gift card or cash would be a GREAT gift for them! I would say $50 is a good amount! I know when I got married, I was just grateful for the cash, any amount was welcomed!
2006-07-27 12:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by Nick's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of cash, why not get a gift card to a restuarant, with the amount being enough to cover a meal for him and his bride. Or get a gift card to a place they have a regisrty at, for whatever amount you want to. I would say no less than $20.00
2006-07-28 14:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
between 40$ or 50$
2006-07-27 11:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by jazzy phizzal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically, you would give enough to cover the expense they incurred for your meal and drinks at the wedding. If you bring a guest, be sure to include their cost as well.
This used to be a standard gift at weddings.
2006-07-27 12:02:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least $50
2006-07-27 12:02:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋