please help me and my best friend with this complicated situation!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Question

ok im 15 and i live in nc. i have this one really good friend and her name is adriane and and she is beautiful and has it all. we have been the best of friends for 3 years and hang out almost every week and talk on the phone and everything that best friends do. many people say that we should go out and all and whenever were together people think we r going out but were not and thats the problem. i am always there for her and buy her gifts and everyhting and ive brought up the subject about going out and she says that if we were to go out and break up then she wouldnt have me as a best friend any more and if we were as great friends we would deff. go out and all. ive tried telling her that we could be friends after a break up but she says it would never be the same... ive asked her out 2 times and she keeps saying this and i am like obsessed over her and almost every nite i have dreams about what it would be like if we were a couple! please help i really want to go out with her & i cant

dont u expect me to vote for u scotty i am 15 and it wouldnt be a serious relationship and if ur a dad u would understand that 15 is not too young infact i had my first gf at like 11 or 10

and i NEVER said a ******* thing about homosexuality its a girl u hoe

Answer 1

Seriously, she has the best of both worlds right now. You behave like a boyfriend (gifts, always being there for her, etc), yet you are just "friends". Why should she risk losing the best of both worlds by entering into a real relationship with you?

She said "no" when you asked her out. Take her word for it that she means it.

I think you may need a new best friend.

Answer 2

Hey kid, take it from someone older and wiser...it's not a good idea to date her. I'm not going to give you all that crap about being too young; only we know our own heart, but she's right, your friendship would very likely suffer unless you two were extremely mature for your ages. Making the choice between being friends or lovers is always a difficult choice, but you have a high failure rate in these types of relationships. The problem is the things you see in each other as friends suddenly changes. You may not think so now, but trust me they will. If you break up, it's most likely going to be in anger, thus there goes your friendship too. You may be able to repair the friendship over time, but it will never be the same as it is now. Ask yourself what's more important, your friendship, or trying to get this girl in bed???? Believe me, it's not worth it even if she's the greatest bed partner in the world. A great friendship is irreplacable!

Answer 3

If you really feel that way about her then tell her. She has to know some already, no girl really and truly keeps a guy as a friend and never has the thought of dating him. Anyway, tell her that although you understand her reasoning, it won't fly because you already do like her in that way and if she does nothing about that then she will eventually end up losing you anyway. Let's be realistic, if she won't date you, you will end up eventually dating someone else and have no time for her and your girlfriend will certainly not like it if you did. Once she gets a boyfriend she will have no time for you. NO matter if she likes it or not, not choosing is making a choice. I know this sounds a bit harsh, but I have been married and with my husband for 11 years, I tried to have boys that were just friends, but truly they just got him jealous and I really didn't think of them much because I was so into my husband at the time. Friends of the opposite sex often times get used. Plus, even good friends get lost along the way side when life gets in the way, like college and marriage..... Good luck.

Answer 4

I had a best friend for years, we told each other everything. We did everything together. We would spend all day together and the talk on the phone for hours. We crossed the line and became a couple and then we got married. Four months later we divorced, twelve years later we still dont talk. I would have preferred to have kept our friendship but once we became a couple, things just got too complicated and it gets too hard to separate them. Good luck

Answer 5

Listen up for your own good. You are much too young for a serious relationship first of all. Second, homosexuality will destroy your life.

Friends are friends, not lovers. There is a distinct dichotomy between the two.

I know you will not like my answwer but I have related the absolute truth to you.

Answer 6

damn!!

i dont think it will help but..........
tell her that you two are such good friends and all than what would brake you two up?......if you tell her everything than if you two go out it will be one of the best relationships ever
well i am not good at giving advice on somthing i never done but i usuly give good advice even if i dont know the full situation so yah

Answer 7

well,that is complicated i think u should see if u like anyone else who likes u 2 & go out on a date or somthin & if ur friend gets jelious tell her shes the 1 who didnt want 2 go out with u.i had a prab like this once i like my old best friend we did everything together but he wouldnt go out with me. but he went out with someone uglier than me. now i like my new best friend but she wont go out with me shes dating a guy & shes striaght

Answer 8

it will fu$ck up that friendship. plus u2 are young, it will be a disaster-im sorry but its the truth
she loves ur friendship live it alone