I am feeling depressed and lone?

Question

What is it possible that I can do when I am feelinf depressed and lonely....

I am 23 years old.... my father died to as massive heart attack when I was 09 and my mother died to sorocies of the liver when I was 11...... I get often sad and confused.... I'm trying to be successful but seems to often think about the rock roads I have been on...... about to be laid off the 2nd time in 1 year, I just dont know what to do, can anyone please help me and give me suggestions on what should I do..... Thank you and be blessed

Answer 1

You'll get some answers that suggest professional assistance. That's probably a good path, assuming you can find (and afford) someone who will actually be able to help you.

But it sounds like you're feeling lost and maybe a little worthless. I'd suggest you look at who you are and who you really want to be. Then decide what it would take to become the person you want to be. Work towards that goal.

People are happy when they feel they are achieving their goals. But first you have to have achievable goals to aim at.

Take a look at Steven Covey's "7 Habits of Effective People". He'll help you decide on your personal goals and help you organize your life to achieve them. He won't tell you what those goals should be -- that's your decision, not his.

Don't take someone else's goals, either. Make your own. Aim high, but be careful that your goals can be achieved and that you have control over them.

You DON'T have control over whether someone likes you or will hire you for a particular job. But you do control whether you become qualified for the job or whether you can manage your weight and be fit and attractive.

Good luck and remember to enjoy the journey on the way to your goals. It's not achieving the goals that matters. What matters is that you are driving towards them.

And be sure to set more goals once you've achieved them. Also set new goals if you decide some of the old ones were bad choices. It's okay -- you'll have learned from them.

Answer 2

Oh, Honey! That is a lot to be through in 23 very short years!

Do you have any friends nearby you can talk to? A girls' day out might be just the ticket.

What are you calling successful? One thing you need to do is get a reliable income. Not necessarily large, but reliable and enough to live on.

Do you have any hobbies or anything else you enjoy doing? By all means, do them if you can.

Find someone you can talk with, either a counsellor or an older woman who can give you a heart-to-heart talk and show you things that can help.

Good luck, Sweetheart.

Answer 3

I know how you feel.We are almost the same. My father died when I was still 3 and my mother got married again when I was 17.My mother left me because of her marriage. And I'm so alone because I'm an only child. I strive my best to finish my college. I work and I also study at the same time. I cant go out with my friends because I will have to work and study. It is a very hard life for me. Because when I have a problems no one can help me. I cant contact my mom because she is very far from me. My money is just enough for my food and tuition fee of my school. But I said to myself .It is hard but i will find my goal in life.Until I finished my college and I find a good job. Then I am married now with 1 kid. I am not alone now and I am happy. All you have to do is strive hard for your success. And make a lots of friends and you will not be lonely. Think for your goal and you can do it.Don't forget to pray to God.

Answer 4

That sounds really hard. I can't imagine the amount of pain and struggle you went through. You have to realize though, that if you did make it through losing both of your parents at such a young age, then losing a job should be like cake. There are many options you can take, the first I would suggest is just to see a psychiatrist. Find someone who you are comfortable talking to, and open up. If you bottle everything up your feelings will just get worse and worse. Keep yourself busy with friends and other family members. I think that you need to find yourself. The more you talk and explore your feelings the deeper you will heal. Good luck.

Answer 5

I am sorry, and my heart goes out to you. The best thing I can tell you is to keep your chin up and remember that things WILL be better. Sure, you may lose your job, but a lot of people are unemployed and have it worse than you do. At 23, you have a lot to look forward to and you still have the chance to turn your whole life around. My suggestion is look to friends and people very close to you for support and help. If the depressing feeling is starting to wear on your whole life, try to see a therapist. Life is tough, but it doesn't really get any easier as we get older...the best thing we can do is remember that tomorrow is another chance to get things right.

Answer 6

Life is hard and boy do you know it at such a young age. Do not be disheartened. Life is so worth living and your parents would be sad to know you are feeling so low. As a mum I know I'd be if you were my child. Lift yourself up (hard but do-able); perhaps join a church, go out to clubs/activities that interest you, further your education at night class, meet new people, volunteer with charity work. As for your job, don't worry, if you improve your qualifications you stand a better chance of a better job and fewer pay-offs. Don't be sad or depressed anymore. If you wish email me whenever you feel life is getting too much; its a huge help to type down how you feel and for someone to be there just to 'listen'. Take good care of yourself. :-)

Answer 7

Get some counseling, if don't have health insurance, locate your local Mental Health clinic, usually they only charge a few dollars per visit.

I can relate to your issue, you need to hang in there, keep pushing yourself. It's hard to do, but keep the past behind you. Look forward to new things. Find a hobby, walk more, take random trips.

Good luck.

Answer 8

i know how you feel. when i was 10 both my g-grand parents died in the same year. when i was 11 my g-father died of cancer. when i was 12 my birth mom was diginosed with cancer and died when i was 14. three months later my g-mother died of cancer.when i was 17 my granny died. believe me i know how you feel.the thing i have always found to help me out was by talking to people. if you need some one to talk to i am here for you as well as others on here who have left there email. my email is on my profile if ya wanna chat or talk over the phone. to me going to therapy never worked for me. my friends have been my therapy. over there years i have lost jobs do to depression and found that findind a job that you truly love and focuse on you will succeed. email me if you [e-mail] good luck.

Answer 9

Talk to someone and get a good level of education so where you dont need to deal with getting laid off every now and then:-)
Your past is your past and it cant be changed but yet your future is still in your hands.Be strong and brave future is holding something really great for you thats whay you been to all this:-).
Take care and good luck
if you need to talk email me
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Answer 10

vacation
go to a day spa
get a massage
and think how luckey you are
stay positive
and dont lose hope
some day,
things ARE going to get better.
dont worry
if your lonley call up a friend
have a sleep over
eat ice cream
paint your toe nails
talk
rent movies
listen to music realy louad
on a friday night,
have fun and enjoy life
we wernt put here to be depressed
life is what WE make of it.
god bless YOU :]]