I'm not religious or anything but I don't take sex as lightly as some people do my age (early twenties) and I would only sleep with someone I loved which to me doesn't happen in 1 or 2 dates (or 10 dates even) - But I think people's casual attitude to sex these days is ruining the romance and sacredness of a potential relationship - I don't want to be with someone who has slept with 10 people casually before falling for me.
I've heard so many people saying "Ah but you have to try it with lots of people to see what you like" - But I think that's complete poppycock as sex is meant to be about how you feel about one another and making a connection on a deeply intimate level rather than just removing clothes and attaining orgasm in 5 minutes of cold pleasure - Well I think so anyway - Am I just old fashioned - Are we meant loosen up and sleep with 40 people we think are cute before settling down with someone we GENUINELY like?
2006-07-27 04:40:47 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with you. I have that attitude, but many of my friends (I'm also in my early twenties) have the sleep with anyone/everyone attitude. It's nice to hear you feel the same way. I don't understand the mentality of randomly sleeping with someone. Sex is supposed to be valued more than that and something that isn't just with the next person who hits on me at this party.
I think that a lot of romance and feeling has been sucked out of it because of the "party" mentality. I worry about when I finally get married...is the person I marry going to have slept with 24 people just because? I mean a person's past is in the past, but I want sex to mean something for me. I don't judge my friends or anyone else for what they do, but I don't want to be sitting here 5 years down the line thinking "I can't believe I did that." I have friends now who are doing that, at age 20, having slept with over 15 people.
2006-07-27 04:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, romance is just a fabrication of our society. In nearly every other culture, marriages are arranged. "Falling in love" is a total creation of our culture.
Love is not a basket of silly emotions and feelings to begin with. I'll admit, it makes lovemaking more exciting while you're in the infatuation stage, but it ain't real.
"sex is meant to be about how you feel about one another and making a connection on a deeply intimate level rather than just removing clothes and attaining orgasm in 5 minutes of cold pleasure"....no it ain't hun.
Sex is sex, Love is love by its own merit. One doesn't necessarily have to go with the other. When they are together it is a much better experience, but it's really up to the individual...If they're just FB's then thats what works for them at the time.
2006-07-27 04:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree. There is a difference between casual sex and sex with someone you love. I believe it is entirely different actually. When you love someone it comes naturally and in a sense is better. I don't know if it is just me, but I find it hard to just mess around/sleep with anyone. I feel I have to be comfortable with the person enough to go on to that level.
2006-07-27 04:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not religious 2! but i do agree and completely understand ur viewpoint. I do not like to hav a guy who has slept with so many gals b4 me 2.. and by d way I dont think the whole try wit lots of people makes sense..you dont choose a guy according to how good u felt during sex! soo i dont think ur old fashioned and I m younger than u so its not ur grandma talkin
2006-07-27 04:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by scartissue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you....I'm 36 yrs. old and I honestly CAN'T sleep with someone just to sleep with them because I'm horny or something......I wouldn't be fulfilled at all. I have to be attracted to them, personality and all, I have to be their friend as well as more....romance is a dying art...sadly to say. You have the right idea though, don't give in to the people on "autopilot" out there...be different and someone will actually recognize this for what it truly is and you will be sooooo happy that you respected yourself and waited for the right person. I am no prude by any means but I do have morals and I respect myself...more people should consider this...they may actually wind up happy for once!
2006-07-27 04:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely killing true love. Sex just isn't special anymore and ppl don't have anything to give to their life partners once they meet them. I totally agree with you. And ppl have to be so careful nowadays, I mean certain types of viruses that cause CANCER are spread through casual sex not just STDs. There's nothing wrong with being particular, hopefully you'll meet someone just like you.
Btw, I don't think "brainiac" has ever been in love. It's difficult for a lot of ppl to think about the casual partners their spouse has been with prior to the relationship and it can cause a lot of problems.
2006-07-27 04:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
casual sex has a general tendance to be without romance by the whole nature of the idea. if an individual is looking for sexual gratification it is to satisfy his or her need to feel desireable or in command if their sexuality.this usually means that the individual will do anything to fullfill the need to have sex.
romance too may lead to sex and that is not at all a bad thing because romance involves patience friendship and eagerness to give pleasure , not only sexual.
i have lived both ways and i opted to be romantic with no regrets at all!
2006-07-27 04:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by viikos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are right. Stick to your beliefs and you will find what you're looking for. I haven't slept with that many guys but the ones I did sleep with other than my husband were completely un-fulfilling. That's because we felt nothing for each other and nothing can compare to what its like being with someone you love.
2006-07-27 04:44:42 · answer #8 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. But good news, not all people are into casual sex so true love and romance still have a chance. :)
2006-07-27 04:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by Luzzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely....most people on here won't remember when romance was had to be partaken in to have a chance....now, if you like each other looks, it is in the sack....so to speak.......{okay, not everyone is that bad}.... but jsut the same....it doesn't take any work, and trust me, it is no where near as good.....
2006-07-27 04:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋