2006-07-27 04:38:28 · 24 answers · asked by viikos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i dont' think arranged marriage is better. what u need in a marriage is love. in arranged marriages they see the outward apperance and nothing more than that. so i think love marriage is best. u have to know ur better half in any marriage either love or arranged inorder to have a happy life.
divorce is prevalent in any kind of marriage which has no understanding
2006-07-27 04:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
All marriages risk divorce. Whether an unhappy couple goes down this route or not can differ for many reasons - culture, familial pressure, kids, financial pressures, fear.
Don't assume that a marriage that lasts is a happy marriage. Many arranged marriages turn out very happily, many love-matches end up in screaming hatred. And vice versa. Divorces are more prevalent nowadays because a) it's easier and b) western social conventions no longer frown on it as a failure of the individuals. Therefore there's less effort to force a solution.
At the end of the day, no-one knows the future. Whichever route feels good to you, full of promise and hope, and the prospect EXCITES you, then go for it and make the best marriage you can.
2006-07-27 12:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say arranged marriages are the way to go. I think divorce is such a problem, because no one sticks out the hard times and fights for their marriages anymore. They hit a rough patch, and just give up. A lot of people are also getting married without knowing it's forever. It's like another kind of relationship to them, like a more serious dating. I'm not sure if arranged marriages are the way to go, but there has got to be some way to get the divorce rate down.
2006-07-27 11:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think arranged marriages do work because the pressure is on the couple to make it work. You have to read about the misery some of the women in arranged marriages go through to get a balanced answer. Perhaps only people in arranged marriage can answer this one. Personally I wouldn't like to spend the rest of my life with someone who was chosen for me for financial reasons, etc. Someone old enough to be my grandfather? Or someone with problems? No, I'd rather worry about a divorce and have a westernised marriage.
2006-07-27 13:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that having an arranged marriage would cut down on the divorce rate? How do you figure that would happen. If anything it would make it worse..forcing people to marry people that aren't in love with.
Divorce happens..sometimes it's part of life..I don't know why people are so concerned about the divorce rate. It's unfortunate yes..but so are a lot of things in life.
2006-07-27 11:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I would say that arrange marriages carry risks, that end in divorce and that they are more common as the way in which arranged marriages are. Its purely because they are brought together by way of religion, but it doesn't mean that divorce wouldn't happen in this way moreso than if it were two people that had been together for years and loved each other..
2006-07-27 11:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either arranged or love the main thing in any marriage is understanding compromise and true love. if u miss any of those things u cannot go through life's ups and downs together. i know of arranged marriages that have ended in divorce. no matter how much u know a person u really dont know them until u live with them so either way is a gamble and hopefully u will win. good luck
2006-07-27 11:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriages usually occur in certain cultures, within thses cultures, that stigma of getting a divorce is still extremely powerful..therefore, less divorces occur in these types of marriages...
however, because of these you can hear of many empty shell marriages which have no love but remail together for the childrens' sake
one argument could be that people are slowly losing faith in finding true long lasting love....
now, you may decide for yourself (i will get an arranged one)
2006-07-27 11:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Terious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An arranged marriage is for completely different reasons. It's a family affair. Many have to grow to love each other because they have only just met.
A lot of people marry for the fantasy value, and get disappointed when the confetti settles.
It'a all about getting ,married for the right reasons.
2006-07-27 11:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by JeffE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the choice should be personal. arranged marriages are not based on true love and circumstances could go one way or another. you may grow to love that person or you may grow to resent them as you did not meet them on so much of a chemical or physical nature. in some arranged marriages the couple are not permitted to meet until the actual ceremony. does this then lead to continuous dispair or perhaps violent or controlling marriages?
2006-07-27 11:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by angelle_76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋