a guy is pressuring me to do things with him...sexually speaking. i sort of thought about it, but it hurts me for some reason, and im sort of thinking maybe my body isn't ready for it yet. idk what to do about this... this guy doesn't really care if i don't do anything with him, he still really likes me, but i know he'd be very bummed out.
What would you do?
2006-07-27 04:15:42 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't do if if you are not ready for it or it can mess you up emotionally, especially if/when you break up.
It sounds like he is respecting you by not pressuring you and you care about him and don't want him to be bummed, but makes it all more reason to wait and continue your relationship and when the time is right, it will feel right. When you do, be sure that you use adequate protection to prevent against an unwanted pregnancy or if he has had other partners in the past, a condom to protect against STDs also.
2006-07-27 04:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, sex is all that this guy wants, no matter what he says. He's pressuring you because he knows that you are vulernable and not ready to do it, but he's hoping that eventually you will give in to him. He just wants to use you, and you will get hurt in the end because you weren't ready, and trust me, it does not feel good being used. Be strong and tell him NO, if he's bummed out that you won't do it with him, even if he says that he may still like you afterwards (which is crap, it's a way to get you to do it with him), he is NOT worth keeping around, cause he will get it from somewhere else.
2006-07-27 04:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by Goodbye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not ready then don't do it. You have to be willing and you have to be 100% to do it becasue if ur not comfortable with it then it won't be a good experience. If u wait until you're ready and u really wanna do it then it will be the best experience u ever had. Don't worry about the guy, ya he may be bummed but he'll get over it. If he really likes u for u then u have nothing to worry about. It will be worth the wait for both of U!!!
2006-07-27 04:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good you know yourself and your body so well. The worst thing you can do is to have sex with him, feeling as you do. You will know when you are ready. You talk about him as if he'll understand that. Just tell him you're still not ready and don't know when you will be. Tell him he's putting a strain on your relationship by trying to pressure you. Ask him to back off for a while. Good luck to you. I admire your self-knowledge and maturity.
2006-07-27 04:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not into it, don't do it. It'll just make you resent your man if the experience proves to be unpleasant. And your man (if he loves you) is not going to wither up and die because you aren't ready for a little kink in your relationship.
Kind of sounds like me. My fiance wants to do a_ _ _ and i've tried but, at this point, i'm just not willing to go through the pain to experience whatever pleasure may come after. And he's perfectly fine with that. He still occasionally brings it up but he doesn't harp on it. When the time is right, it'll happen. If it never does, then who cares. Just keep the other parts of your sex life exciting and he'll be able to put it on his mind's back burner.
Good luck.
2006-07-27 04:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and I say the hell with him. If he gets bummed out then so be it. If you are not ready then dont do it. You will only regret it later if you do. Be strong. If he cares about you then it want bother him. If it does then that is all he was wanting then your next step would be to kick his a@@ to the curb. You said he was PRESSURING you, that sounds like that is what he wants. Find you someone that will respect you. Good luck hun, We are not ALL like that.
2006-07-27 04:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to have sex, tell him NO! Because you do have the right to remain a virgin till your wedding night if you wish! A lot of people that have sex before their wedding does regret it! It is not geeky to be a virgin, the ones that aren't brag too much, and sex is a way to highly rated anyhow! Which I highly recommend it! If he wants to kiss you, etc. And you're not ready, don't push yourself! You do sound young to me, and I know his hormones are raging, but you still have a right! If your not ready, your not ready! If he don't want to wait, you are better off without him and there is some better fish in the sea then him!
2006-07-27 04:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by Lorla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to yourself.
You don't seem to want it. You feel pressure and you are only thinking about doing it to make him feel good. Don't do that to yourself, there is nothing wrong with saying 'no' and taking good care of yourself!
You would probably feel awful about yourself if you cross your own borders here. Don't let him push you into anything you don't really want! He should respect that. The fact that you allready feel that he is pushing you is not a good sign!
It's a typical girl thing to feel sorry for him. Don't! And you know, guys do know that. A lot of guys manipulate a girl because they know that they can make her feel guilty.
Take care of yourself!
2006-07-27 04:19:14 · answer #8 · answered by Bloed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it. If he cares about you the way you say he does then he will be willing to wait until your old enough and mature enough to handle sex. Lots of guys say they care but really only want to have sex with you and then move on to the next girl. When men are young they will say anything to have sex with a girl, and I do mean anything.,
2006-07-27 04:19:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you feel is right and that is obviously not having sex with him. You two should be able to still have a relationship without it. If he cares about you, he will understand
2006-07-27 04:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋