this is an absolute serious question ... and of course we know that adoption is giving an unwanted child a chance to grow up in a good and stable enviroment ... my husband and I are seriously thinking about adoption and we'd like to know as much as we possibly can about this subject ... any wise insight is greatly appreciated!
2006-07-27 04:15:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One of the biggest cons is that you have to open yourselves up to so many people/agencies/countries.
My wife and I adopted a little girl from China. We're in the process to go back again.
I always dreaded the thought of the FBI having my fingerprints, but to give them those just because I wanted to adopt a little girl from overseas!?
My wife and I were raised around adoption. My sister was adopted. My wife was adopted. We found her birthmother and discovered that she, too, was adopted. When we married, it seemed natural that when the time was right, we would adopt. I'm not sure we really wanted to wait as long as we did but by the time we did finally get to that stage, we were both near 40.
Domestic adoption has its own set of pros and cons. We wanted a process which would be laid out in specific steps with very few surprises along the way. We were very open to considering international adoptions. That's why the Chinese system appealled so much to us personally.
We used an agency known as Great Wall China Adoption. They only do Chinese adoptions. If you go to their website, you can send for an informational package which includes a DVD on the process. We used them once and are now in the process of using them again.
It's kind of hard to feel like I can fully answer your basic question, so if you need, please contact me by e-mail and I'll be more than happy to answer any question you have. Once again. I'm not very well versed in domestic adoptions.
2006-07-28 08:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by sir_galahad_ks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it. There are no cons. We adopted a 5-mo old boy from Korea who is now 9 y/o.
PS: Go through a reputable agency, not private, where the birth mother can change her mind (sometimes) up to one year after the baby's born - and in your home. There are many scam artists that prey on people's hearts.
2006-07-27 11:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by puz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you about my wifes best friend. She adopted a wonderful little boy and things have been great for 4 years now.
I personaly can not see any con's to adoption.
Try fostering for a year and see what you think of having a needy child in your home.
2006-07-27 11:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by dik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on the age. pros: child has a home to live in, and feels wanted, and needed. Has a better look out on life and wants to live.
Cons (if child is older then like 4): child might be angry and not respect you or the house. Could be difficult to handle, at times.
2006-07-27 11:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pros: someone to love and nurture. Kids make life more worthwhile.
Cons: Maybe not knowing medical history. Biological mother has 6 months to change her mind.
2006-07-28 10:48:48 · answer #5 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pro:you can put your extra effort on this child. he/she will make you happy. you won't be lonely when you are old.
con:he/she's not your real child. the child may feel weird or insulated when he/she grow up and know his story.
2006-07-28 08:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by ☆LiAn☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋