how do i get a guy to like me?

how do i get a guy to like me?i have very low self asteem and i think that im ugly and just plain stupid and i blame my self for not being able to find a truethful guy.any guy that does date me only dates me to get to someone or im the only thing thatll date them.all i really want is a realationship thatll last a while.im 14 but i still want to find that guy that ill stay with for longer than 4 months.

In answer to your question i'll have to break it up into seperate parts.

1. A guy will like you for who you are, not what you do to make him like you.

2. Never think that about yourself, have confidence in yourself and with ur confidence getting better u will get a decent guy

3. sometimes guys are shallow at 14 and don't think beyond how to get wot they want. need 2 realise that they hurt ppl when they treat them like that

2006-07-27 05:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by mr_scotsguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋

You are 14 and all these feelings are perfectly natural.... give boys a miss for a couple more years.... boys your age are complete idiots anyway and many won't actually reach maturity until they are about 60.... concentrate on your school work... most men find intelligence in a woman very sexy.......

don't feel pressured into having a boyfriend by your friends or society around you, you have your whole life ahead of you to find that perfect someone for you....

I'm sure you are not ugly or stupid, so stop beating yourself up and go and have fun!!!!!!

2006-07-27 11:03:33 · answer #2 · answered by dirtyminx82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋

honey you cant force someone to like you. If they dont naturally like you - you're better off without.
At fourteen - youre too young to be looking for someone serious anyway - you have all your life ahead of you for commitment.
And as for calling yourself ugly etc - you're just going through that age of insecurities and self hatred. Accentuate what you have - wear subtle make up, or buy yourself some new clothes - something that will boost your ego a bit.
Dont sell yourself short by wasting your time with some loser - the guy of your dreams could be just around the corner!!

2006-07-27 11:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋

you are only 14 years old, you should not be so fixated on the idea of being in a relationship at this age. The fact that you are asking this question demonstrates that you are not mature enough to be in a relationship. You should be concentrating on school and little girl things like matching your barbie and bratz dolls. If you really need to be in a relationship then you should just be yourself and dont be fake...

2006-07-27 11:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋

Well honestly you've answered your problem. You have a very low self esteem!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's your problem.
Go to
http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/booklets/selfesteem/selfest.html
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/self_esteem.html
You should think that you're the best.That way most people will respect you and they won't make fun of you.Think about your good sides and don't be so available. Don't think that you're ugly or anything there is no such thing.Everybody is different. Try to find a guy who'll like you for who u really are.

Good luck.

2006-07-27 11:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋

Stop trying to get someone to like you and start liking yourself. Guys like a woman who is confident in herself. If you start to like yourself others will like you too and you'll find you're attracting the sort of guy you actually want. Remember, you are a beautiful person.

2006-07-27 11:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by the woo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋

Just smile and be yourself. Set clear boundaries.
4 months? That's not that bad for your age at all.

2006-07-27 11:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by Black Cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋

I know how you feel, but I say just try to be a little more self-confident and one day you'll find some one.

2006-07-27 11:05:29 · answer #8 · answered by Hilary H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋

14???
Stop worrying about it chick, its really not that big a deal.
It will happen when it happens, just think of all the birthday, Christmas and Valentines presents you dont have to buy yet.

2006-07-27 11:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by robmurfitts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋

Theres the perfect person out there for everyone. All you have to do is wait for them to come along and sweep you off your feet!!!

2006-07-27 11:02:39 · answer #10 · answered by CHAZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋

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