I am an eighteen male in a very confused time in my life . The thing is that I am single but wish for a companion, a female companion or girlfriend. My problem I am facing is that I know what to do on how to get a girlfriend, but I am scared stupid. So, like I said before, is there something wrong with me?
2006-07-27 03:55:44 · 26 answers · asked by woner_rscp249 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop looking at it as "getting a girlfriend".
All you need to do is be friendly and relax. The more friends you have, the more likely it is that you will meet a person who will be right for you.
2006-07-27 03:57:54 · answer #1 · answered by Nosy Parker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. The problem is that you are to worried about what girls are going to think about you so you are scared that you will turn them away, which is the last thing that you would want to do. First thing that you should realize is that most girls your age and younger are totally more worried about themselves, if you are looking at realistic girls and not models, and not what is wrong with you. You have to just imagine her as a good friend, you are putting way to much emotional thought into the whole process. Plus do not say really vulgar things, that is just a turn off. I will say that no matter how old you get the first few dates, you will always be scared stupid.
2006-07-27 11:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe what your lacking is confidence. I am usually attracted to guys who may seem kind of cocky when approaching girls. I don't like for dudes to not think I wouldn't want them cause because i don't immediatley give hints. So boost your confidence by looking in the mirror. I highly doubt your ugly and when a girl comes around tell her you think she's cute and you would like to spend time with her. Don't let fear make you it's bit**, and if you get rejected so what??? I know it's easier said than done and I apologize but hey these things take time to get used to. If you prefer start off with a smile as you walk past a girl. It's almost instinct tthat after you all pass she'll look back if she's interested. If she does you know you've got her! Also find you a female friend to hang around with. I get more girls for my friend this way because when I see a girl looking from me to him repeatedly that means she's wondering if I'm the girlfriend and I'll give him the heads up. So good luck and don't worry about it. you'll do great!! :)
2006-07-27 11:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by Butta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,
It is the age at which you should study, plan your career. It is not an age to get a companion. Only after, 23, and after you settle in your life, you will have ample time and opportunities to enjoy the life.
But, you start enjoyment in teenage it self and loose interest when you grow up and that is the problem in some western countries.
2006-07-27 11:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by Electric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are young, unsure, a bit insecure? Naw... that's pretty normal for some people. Instead of asking a girl directly on a date maybe you could use the back door and become friends first. The best companions are the ones that you are friends with first after all!
2006-07-27 10:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by Xen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are suffering from NEYGS (Normal Eighteen Year Old Guy Syndrome). Dating in itself is a pretty scary thing. The 18 year old hormones don't make matters any easier.
2006-07-27 11:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem shy so the best advice I can give you is to become friends with someone you maybe interested in first, after you see if you are compatible as friends then see if there is a chance to move on. It is hard to go after someone completely focused on just getting into a relationship. Its easier to transition from a casual friend into a relationship.
2006-07-27 11:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by slash fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's anything wrong with you. What are you looking for in a girl? If you know what to do to get a girlfriend, why are you not doing it? Do you have commitment issues? You have every right not to settle for just anything. It'll come to you when the time is right.
2006-07-27 10:59:48 · answer #8 · answered by awhisper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naa. Your fine. Your just a little timid. Yu gotta take that leap man. Put yourself out there. Nobody is born an expert. You gotta practice man. It will get easier. Trust me.
2006-07-27 10:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by woodybmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no honey nothin wrong w/ ya just need to build confedence up and of course ya have a normal reaction we all have had our scared stupid feelins when see someone we would like to talk to or get to know better, dont worry its ok and hope ya keep it a lil, it makes ya human and heartful
2006-07-27 10:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋