is my punishment fair?

Question

a 13 yo girl. Im good girl, my grades atre great, but sometimes I mess up. Sometimes I rebel against my parents especially my mom. She forces me to wear bras acording to m y breasts and I dont like them. I wanna wear other bras but mom is stubborn. We had several arguments over this I got grounded a few times. yesterday I really lost my temper and messed up. I got a pair of scissors and in front my mom cut up 3 of the bras she gave me, destroyed them completely. I know this was tupid. I apologized but my mom got REALLY mad at me. Punishment: She took me to a lingerie store and got me 2 of those bras called long line that covers all of your torso and have 10 hooks in the back. She also got me a shapeawer that covers all of your body; All of them made of very thich material. I'll have to wear them till December, EVRYDAY and they are kinda uncomfortable, MUCH worse than my other bras. I gotta wear all the time, except in bed. Dont you agree this punishment is too harsh and unfair?

Answer 1

Rebeling is part of growing up. And the teenage years are hard times to adjust to. They are fun times too. These years are hard on parents too. There is a period of letting loose the control that they have on their children. But know they are probably doing their best.
I think you both went overboard on what you have done. Calmly try to discuss the bra situation with your mom. Once either of you get mad there is no point on going on. You won't see what the other person is saying. Try to do what your mom wants. As you get older you will be able to buy the undergarments you want. Good luck.

Answer 2

Not really, I guess you could say that is an old fashion punishment. We need more of that kind of punishment back today and maybe kids would learn to appreciate what they have.

From what you are saying, I would say that you are big chested. Your mom was doing what was best for you. But you ended up acting like a child, but then at 13, you are still a child.But you were acting more like a 3 year old instead of a 13 year old. You cut up bra's that I am sure your mother paid a great deal of money for. You have already admitted that you know you messed up, but why did you do it, that is the question. By having to wear the other type that she has picked out now,should make you appreciate the ones that she wanted you to wear to start with. This type of punishment is also called "Eye for an Eye". So nope, I have to agree with your mom. Pat on the back for mom.

By the way, you are JUST 13. So there for you are a minor and living at home. When you are of legal age, move out and wear what you want to wear. If you want to dress and act like a tramp, be my guest, that will be your choice. But for now, you are 13, start acting like a decent young lady!! As long as you do live at home, you need to have respect for your parents, no matter what. If she didn't care about you she wouldn't be doing this to you now.

Answer 3

I had to read this more than once as it seems so far fetched. If what you say is true, I think your mom is a nutcase. I'm almost 50 years old and I would never in a million years do what your mom has done to you. I think your mom is abusive and if I were you, I'd cut up the bras again. Or never wear them at all.....this is a power struggle and I think your mom is a fruitcake. Let her keep spending money on stuff you don't want....I'd also tell your school counsellor when you get back to school.

ON THE OTHER HAND...if your mom feels your clothing is too revealing - then she has every right to insist you wear something decent and respectable....but she's really going about it the wrong way!

Answer 4

Harsh and unfair, no. You're only 13 years old, you are barely starting to become a woman and your mom seems like she's trying her best to help you out on this. She doesn't know the "hip" stuff to wear, like push up bras and whatnot. You losing your temper is normal, it happens to everyone and I'm sure she will get over it. Just give it time and wear what she got for you, you'll appreciate and laugh about it later on. Besides you can always take it off when she isn't there with you :P

Answer 5

I think that you are acting like a brat. There are reasons why we mothers want you to wear a bra. There really isn't a reason for you not to except for the fact that you may want to be showing off what you have to the opposite sex. I agree that her punishment is a bit extreme but she is getting her point across, isn't she? Sometimes it is just best not to question your parents, do what they ask of you and you will find that you can live a much more harmonious life! Quit trying to rebel over silly stuff. There are much more things in life to get upset over than silly bras.....lighten up, doll, and just do what she asks of you!

Answer 6

Really not but some of it, you should get punish for the bras because ur mom bought it for you but not all the extra stuff like what u have to wear till december.

Answer 7

You got just what you deserve! If you were my child you would have got your butt beat and made to pay back what you destroyed on top of having to wear granny underwear.You're too young to be wearing sexy, revealing bras and besides, while a young girls breasts are developing it's important to wear properly fitting bras.

Answer 8

Do you agree that your mother has passed through your stage and has experienced all the problems of a teenager" With that experience, she is guiding you. This is the age of rebellion, but you must heed to the advise of your mother. If you feel any problems, you could discuss with her and solve it.

You might have heard " Spare the rod, spoil the Child" saying.
Your mother has followed this and it is for your good. Learn to behave and do not rebel for every thing.

OK?

Answer 9

This is NOT normal, and certainly not an appropriate punishment. Your mother has no right to force you to wear these things, and you should talk to your school counselor or school nurse and tell them what's going on, and ask for their help. Your mother should not be doing this.

Answer 10

If I say I agree what would it change? I do agree! You have the right to wear anything you want. As long as you are at home. When you are out, then you might have to reconsider what to wear.